2007-03-24 14:16:17 · 9 answers · asked by milissa h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok,first thanks guys 4 the advice.I had recently posted a question about step-parents mistreating the kids. my husban is not violent,not in the since of craziness anyway.he just completely ignores them unless hes yelling or punishing them. I have 3 boys and they need a male in their life. in the last year my husban may have spent a total of 2 hours with them including the yelling & punishing.they are EVERYTHING 2 me & when he married me,didn't he marry them 2?With me, i cant pee without him having 2 wipe my a**.Really. no joke. i cant walk on the porch without him asking where im going & how long am i going 2 be.yes, i do agree with some of you,but divorce is gonna be hard 4 him. hes like my 4th kid. he does nothing on his own except work.By the way, I did't say i was sleeping with the other person.But we do spend a lot of time together with the kids.& they are really happy with the male attenttion.
2007-03-25 03:10:24 · update #1
yes-he doesn't deserve to have someone like you, if haven't already divorce or break up with him.
2007-03-24 14:45:23 · answer #1 · answered by okey dokey 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Melissa, sweetie unfortunately it is never alright to see another man while you are still married to your husband. Honey, there are many couples out there that are struggling just the same as you, maybe not the same scenario but they do have their faults, however, committing adultry is never the answer. According to the Holy Bible, it states that noone may divorce a spouse unless it is through unfaithfulness and if you divorce your husband now, the word of God says you will not be able to remarry cause you will be committing adultry. Look Melissa, I understand exactly where you are coming from about that cause I'm married to one myself and I have it alot worse off than you, for instance I atttend college full time and have a three year old son who is not in daycare and stays home with me 24:7. Also, my husband works two jobs but does not help me cook, clean house, wash clothes, wash dishes, or take care of our son because he claims to be tired and not know how he can help me. If I want anything done I have to beg him or he has to be in the mood to do it. If it wasn't for the fact that I love my husband and that we do have a child together, yet alone the fact that God's word says I have no legal grounds to divorce him I would have probably left a long time ago, instead I chose to stay and suck it up and move foward. We have been married going on five years now and are still in love with one another as the day we first met. When you say your vows, you not only make a promise before your husband, family, and friends but also before God himself and those vows are to love, honor, and cherish each other in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer til death do you part. Now that life has thrown you a few curve balls and fast pitches you are ready to throw in the flag and call it quits or cheat. Honey, you are a wife and a mother and you need to think in the best interest of the kids, not yourself.
2007-03-24 21:52:23 · answer #2 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never. If things are that bad and counseling isn't an option then you might as well look into ending the marriage. But seeing someone else can and most likely will cause even bigger problems down the road.
2007-03-24 22:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by mcbobly2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never ok. Stop making excuses. Get out of the relationship if he is abusive or stand up for yourself. We do teach people how to treat us. Something has to change, but you don't have to jump in bed with another man. How would htat make it better for the kids? Would it be ok if they cheat or steal because they get treated badly? Same thing
2007-03-24 21:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I would just leave, if you could. If not, then do whatever makes you happy, just dont let him find out because he might hurt you. Make sure the other person knows you are in a relationship so he is not surprised if it all comes out in the open.
Good luck
2007-03-24 22:08:17 · answer #5 · answered by cabingirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not describe the problem......do you mean he stop spoiling you and your kids? or, mistreats as in yelling at the kids and hitting you?......please,explain a bit more....thanks
2007-03-24 21:52:42 · answer #6 · answered by virgo7134 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, walk away and start divorce proceeding's!
Cheating is NEVER right!
2007-03-25 01:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey go for it ,you need love
2007-03-24 22:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it.
2007-03-25 00:05:59 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋