i asked this guy i thought i liked to a dance, but during the dance, i realized that i didnt' have any feelings for this guy other than just liking him as a friend. But during the dance, he kept hinting how it would be fun to go together to prom. Even though i like him as a friend, i honestly dont want to go to prom with him b/c he has a tendency to make things awkward... and uncomfortable. If he does ask me to prom, how do i let him know that i had fun at the last dance, but dont want to go to prom with him? and not make him feel i dont want to be his friend? the guy is the more shy type and easily gets his feelings hurt so im scared to tell him..
2007-03-24 14:14:40 · 13 answers · asked by Silly Putty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you seem like a reasonable and sensitive person and I'm glad you haven't already accepted an invitation from him. Be honest and nice. Just say you like him, and you enjoy spending time with him, but you don't want to go to the prom as his date. I will be difficult and possibly awkward but it's better than accepting then canceling or worse, accepting and being miserable the whole time.
Try practicing the situation in a mirror -- think about your reply and how you will approach it. I know it seems odd, but this could really make the process much easier.
Best case scenario you could work out a situation where you're double dating you with a date and him with a date (not dating eachother).
Good luck to you both!
2007-03-24 14:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him the truth. That you really like him as a friend but that is all. Then tell him that you already have plans for the prom. This way he realizes that you don't have feelings for him and you don't have to worry about him asking you to the prom because you are turning him down before he gets the chance to ask you out. We all go through rejection, it is a part of life. You can't help whether or not his feelings get hurt. Live your life for yourself. Just be nice about it.
2007-03-24 14:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by cmg1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One very easy way out of that dilemma would be to find a date to prom before he gets the chance to ask you.
Of course, if this guy starts really letting you know that he likes you and is interested in you, you should let him know that you enjoy your friendship but don't have romantic feelings for him. It will hurt a little, but it will ultimately be much better for him to hear it now than to develop even stronger feelings that could damage your ability to stay friends.
2007-03-24 14:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by threngec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it will be hard, but Prom is a special night and you want to be sure to spend it with someone special. If he asks you to Prom be honest with him. In the sweetest way possible tell him you really think he is great, but you can't go to prom with him. Then offer to go to a movie or out to eat or sometihng, but as friends. Hopefully this helps.
2007-03-24 14:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.
Just give him the honest answer, he probably likes honest girls too.
If you just lie to him, and tell him later, that would really hurt his feelings. Just tell him that you want to be good friends. And if he doesn't have a date to the prom, ask somebody that could go on a date with him, if he still doesn't have a date, he can go to the prom by himself, and, lucky for him, a girl will ask him to dance.
I hoped I helped
Good Luck!
2007-03-24 14:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by TempoBronze124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't like sissy guys though usually they are quite successful ( financially) in life. In any case, instead of him asking you and then you refuse, just let him know ( in casual fashion) that someone else you to go out and you said yes. If he asks the name, tell him that Mr X does not want anyone to know now and you promised. This way he has to accept that he did not ask first. Other option is to tell him that you are lesbian and you just want to be his friend. ( Which I believe is the real case) !!
2007-03-24 14:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by WISEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just teel him that you like him has a friend, but I you don't want to go to prom with him because you don't want to be tied down with having a date is the only thing I know to tell you and if you want pray to god and ask him.I'll pray for you and I hope things go ok.
2007-03-24 14:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take pre-emptive moves. Get another guy that you reeeeaaally like to ask you before "shy boy" does. Then, when he works up the nerve, you can let him down gently by telling him you've already accepted (fill in the boy's name)'s invitation, but that you hope to see him there.
2007-03-24 14:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by RepoMan18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of telling him straight out, since you don't want to hurt him, why don't you let him know that you're not interested in going with him by talking to him about another guy you want to go with. that way, it's kinda like you've rejected him w/o him even asking you first. he can't blame you b/c it's not like you said no. if he's sad or if he tells you he wants to go with you, say you just want to be friends, but you have someone else on your mind. ask him to understand.
2007-03-24 14:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by miisty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him that you had fun at the last dance but you only like him as a friend and tell him what an awsome friend he is.
hope this helps
2007-03-24 14:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by pocahontas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋