Should I drop it and move on, or try to work things out?

Question

I just got this email from my ex. I still love him, but I don't know if it's worth my time to rebuild. What do you think?
I don't want to have to feel like I have to call you because I feel forced to call or text. Our conversations don't feel the same way to me as they were before. I feel strained. This is partly because it is not important to me, I find myself running out of minutes. Maybe I am being heavy handed, but I cannot give you the time you want and the ability to say I can call you at this time. I would rather say, let me get back to you when I feel comfortable, rather than, tomorrow, because I know tomorrow I am going to be busy. There is no rush, either, to do anything, and if there was a rush, I would really need a good explanation...
I do not want the responsibility of being the reason you are visiting NYC. What is it that you want now, out of our conversations? Be clear. I know what I want: I know what I want. I would like to stay in touch and to feel good when I talk t

Answer 1

How obvious does the guy have to be? Stop running after him already.

Answer 2

You have already answered your own questions. Communication is an important aspect of a relationship and there's no point in trying to work things out when conversations don't feel the same and when he's feeling strained.

I'm not sure how long the relationship lasted and how it ended. It seems to me that he has moved on and he only wants to get back to you when he feels comfortable. What does he treat you as?? Is he going to leave you and ignore again when he feels uncomfortable? Oh please...don't let him treat you in this manner.

You should drop it and move on, dear...He doesn't deserve you.

Answer 3

He is not being clear as to why he is emailing you with these words. It sounds as though something is going on with him but he is not telling you. It also sounds as though he doesn't know his own mind and doesn't understand you because apparently he is not trying very hard to understand you. This is just my observation and so you need to take what I say as is. If I were you I think I would just let things go and not respond at all to his email and just wait and see what happens next because if he cares for you then you will definitely hear from him again and if he doesn't then you won't.

Answer 4

Sweetie, I hate to say this, but I wouldn't put much stock in this relationship ever being more than what it is..."casual". Good relationships don't need a reason...they just "Are"....But do what you're comfortable with. I've always heard that when a person asks for advice, they already know the answer, they just don't want to believe it.

Answer 5

It's simple surely? He wants things his way without having to go out of his way on any point. Why should you be the one making all the compromises? Have some self respect and move on.

Answer 6

well, who broke up with who? but forget it anyways, guys are like that. they dont know what they got till its gone. and in that case, its you. your probably too good for him anyways. if you feel weird talking to him, then thats telling you that maybe..you dont have the same feelings as before when you two first started. just go on with your own life and let him regret losing you.

Answer 7

You definitely need to drop him and find some other friends.
He is bored, busy, rushed, and just not interested any more.
Let him go!

Answer 8

You SERIOUSLY need to move on. He doesn't want to be with you and flat out said it's because he doesn't care enough. You want someone that WANTS to be with you.

Answer 9

Relationships die if you don't nuture them. Ask yourself is this really what you want . ? Is it easier for you to let it die? Then don't bother . It must have not been special AYYY

Answer 10

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