I dated my ex-boyfriend for a year and a half, until he broke up with me three days ago (now Sat). We got into a fight and he said we're over. I tried calling and texting all day Wed and Thur and for an hour Fri, but he never answered. Since he ignored me and I needed my stuff out of his room, I tried talking to him when he got out of class, but he said, "We have nothing to talk about. You're driving me crazy." I went over there anyway that night and he said, "I don't love you anymore. Just leave me alone." I know the only reason he said these things is because he knows that's what would hurt me the most (the way he is). My friends tell me to give him the weekend to call and that he definitely will and that he still loves me, but that I need to stop calling, texting, and annoying him in order for him to cool down and have space. Will he call? How long should I wait until I call if he doesn't? Will he miss me or enjoy the time? I want to work things out, so don't tell me to move on.
2007-03-24 14:03:58 · 10 answers · asked by l_ori_e 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how badly do you want your stuff back? if thats the reason behind all the calling and texting maybe you should get a friend of your or his to get it for you. and leave him alone. youre just going to make things worse. if you want to get back together, id still stop with all the phone stuff. because he may want to get back together now but the more you annoy and piss him off the less likely itll happen. right now id just worry about getting your stuff back.
2007-03-24 14:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, give him space and time! He just said you drive him crazy. Maybe too much crowding, togetherness, and smothering....hope you know what I mean. Relationships are a balance between together--apart.
I hope he will call but not sure. This may have been building for a long time unless you two have been honestly communicating all along and you are sure this is not the case. If not, you may have just finally pushed him over the edge. Sorry. I know you will be VERY nervous just waiting.
He should be willing to work things out too, or it just won't work, no matter what you say or do.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 21:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As difficult as it may be you need to just leave it alone. Texting him & calling him over and over will not remind him he loves you...it will only bug the heck out of him.
I would let him call, and if he doesn't that means that he doesn't want a relationship with you for whatever silly reason. Unfortunately it doesn't have to be a good reason, it only takes one person to break up...that's what makes it so hard.
Hang in there, be strong, and dont give in to the overwhelming urge to talk to him. Leave him alone right now.
2007-03-24 21:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by muse_10999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give hime space, he will come back. Do not put a clock on it. You are having seperation anxiety so you need to chill out first. If you two get back now, you will start fighting again. I would say give him a month. Do not call him or leave message. Just ignore him and go on with your life. After a month reacess the situation. If he comes back with in a month, respond to him with civility but do not have sex with him or intimation. Just take some time off.
2007-03-24 21:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by WISEMAN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to stop calling, texting and annoying him! Leave the poor guy alone!! He dumped you, he doesn't like you anymore and your friends are wrong that he will "definitely" call you and still loves you. If he doesn't call yoy, you NEVER call him again. It doesn't matter one whit if you want to work things out if he doesn't. Give him space and leave HIM ALONE. If he really does still care about you, he'll come back. But if you keep pestering him, you will only make him hate you more and drive him away. Guys HATE psycho stalker girls. The more you run after him, the faster he'll run away from you.
2007-03-24 21:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's nothing worse than a person refusing to hear the one thing she needs to hear most. It takes two to make a relationship to work but only one to end it. Just leave him alone. I can't promise that he will call or that you'll ever get back together, but at the rate you're going, you're looking at a restraining order against you (best case scenario) or charges of stalking (worst case scenario) if you don't lighten up.
2007-03-24 21:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by SDTerp 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him space this weekend. You both need time alone to think. Keep yourself busy and go out with some friends to keep your mind off the issue.You don't want to be too pushy. Let him call when he is ready.
2007-03-24 21:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by prettygirlsmakegraves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you necessarily have to move on, but I do think you should probably chill out. I know, I know, much easier said then done. You sound a lot like me. But, just give him some time to miss you. If you keep driving him "crazy", he might never miss you. You need to make him realize what he lost.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 21:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by mmt7997 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him some time to cool down, maybe his just mad at you for a while, give him a call maybe a week maybe or something? i m sure h might talk to you then and try to talk about things
2007-03-24 21:09:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well.....I would give him until Wedsnday to cool off, and then instead of you showing up at his door, ask one of your friends to go instead, and say that you're sick and that your friend is picking up the stuff instead, and if he wouldn't mind giving it back.
2007-03-24 21:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Ariella Y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋