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Question

Reason why my life stinks
1. My mom died before cause she overdosed, they brought her back to life, but it was so scary watching my mom go onto a stretcher into an abulance.
2. My dad is literally crazy. He used to scream at me and my brother and mom, but my parents are in the middle of a divorce. I hate my dad so much ever since he raped my mom and screwed her stomach up so bad she couldn't go to the bathroom.
3. I have been living with my grandparents for10 months and i am getting so tired of them being on my back about everything. Im not aloud to be left home alone not even for ten minutes
4. My brother has no frens. He hangs out with kids or are like 4 years younger than him. They are little imature brats.
5. I can't move out of my grandparents house until my dad pays my mom money from the house he is supposed to be buying from my mom. My dad doesnt pay child support.
6. I HATE consoulers. They think they can fix everything by talking to you, they cant.

the sad part is... im only 12, turning 13 in July

I love my mom, and i think that she is getting better. Its just that i cant stop thinking about how she died, and if she didnt go to the hospital. I would never ever not trust her, and i love her so much! I share a room with her, which really stinks, and im always mad at my brother because he gets his own room and i dont. i mean, sharing a room with your mom for 10 months, it kindda get annoying. I guess im just being selfish.

Answer 1

It sounds like life has been really hard on you. First of all I want you to know that NONE of it is YOUR fault. You can't control what other people do - only the way YOU react to their mistakes. Know that this isn't forever and have faith that you will never make their mistakes and you will make your life special. I do not know how old you are, but know that your grandparents are probably old fashioned and aren't sure how to treat you. I will pray for you and hope your situation turns out for the best! If you need to talk to someone you can email me. I have two teenage children, and if I can't offer you advice I can at least listen.

Answer 2

Sounds like a lot of problems....

Stay focus...
Develop a vision for yourself and keep to it. In the most desperate situations you might have to look out only for yourself. It sounds selfish, but there are some people you cannot help. This doesn't mean you don't love them. It just means that sometimes you can either save yourself or be dragged down with the rest of the others. The reality is sometimes you can't help others unless you help yourself first.

Here are some additions
1. Go to a community college. Learn, Learn, Learn
2. Ask others for constant advice...particularly older people. Ask them what they would do differently in life
3. Use your local library and read, read, read. You will be surprised on how much knowledge is there and you will never know where it will take you.
4. Surround yourself with people that have a positive outlook.
5. Seek refuge in a church if you can.
6. If you can, (and only you can make this decision), get away from all those people that have a negative influence in your life. Just get away...Again, it doesn't mean you don't love them....Some people just cannot be helped. It is just a reality.
7. Remember this...there is a whole other world out there..Once you get a taste of it...you will never look back. Trust me. It can be an exciting and wonderful world out there.

Answer 3

my heart goes out to you. I'm not sure what to say to make you feel better, i can understand where you are coming from to a certain extent. you know although all those things happened in your life you can get past them. sometimes we just need to look a little deeper within and find our inner strength and rise above all the bad, you know put it in it's place,past. the brother situation will probably make you crazy no matter how old you both get and your grandparents surely love you and i am sorry they are so over protective but they went through those bad times just like you and just like your brother. it sounds like you are all still very tender to the entire family history and only time will make things smoother. have you considered going to the library and try to find some self healing books, or something to do with thinking positive? it is not doing you any good to let your blood bubble at the home environment at this point with all the past healing everyone in the family needs. sometimes when we just try to go with the flow things can smooth there selves out. plus you really should go to your grandparents and talk about the alone time thing, are they old fashioned? one more thing, try keeping a journal, you would be amazed at how much you can learn on your own by just writing things down and look back at what you have wrote occasionally to see how you have progressed. GOD bless and smiles to you!

Answer 4

Hello and thanks for sharing your life with us.IT seems that both your parents have hard time going through their divorce specially your father.But there has to be no reason for them to put you into this horrible situation.Men are gods when it comes to paying any kind of supports and obviously you kids are suffering her. I have a feeling you are the oldest in the family and all the responsibilities are over your shoulders!Do not get involved in this fight. Ask your grandparents to put a restrain order against our father if you think he is abusive. You have no idea how much power kids have in front of the law. Tell them to go solve this problem with a profession, a mediator, a psychology and people who are in the field of family law.I do not know how old you are but if you think some one else you like to stay with such as an aunt or uncle you can go and live with an other family member . Protect your self because you have to go to school and you have to put your life together.Every time they come ad talk to you, be firm and tell them that you can not help them, refer them to a profession!Take care and good luck

Answer 5

So sorry you are stuck with a messed up family! What can you do to make sure your future family will not continue all these dysfunctional behaviors? Where is your mother at this time?
How old are you? My heart goes out to you but you do need help. Counselors cannot fix anything. You have to do your part to fix what you can with their help. I think you haven't found one that has a personality that works well with yours. You are rightfully angry and need someone to help you through this. Please, don't do something dumb that you will be sorry for later. Your entire family needs help. Hang in there, find someone, no, find a therapist that you are comfortable with and give it another try. Good luck sweetie. You deserve a break!

Answer 6

No one can fix things just by talking. You have the chance to improve your situation a little bit at a time--it won't happen over night, but take small steps. With small victories, overtime things can get better.

There are some more specific ideas I can share with you. Feel free to email me for the specifics.

Answer 7

hey girl.. i understand you think your life stinks.. BUt you know what .. these are challenges that the Lord has given you, to strengthen you throughout your life.. You may think that you are alone, but look at the bright side, there are people who have worst conditions..
The Lord has a bigger better plan for your life, and if you call on him and go lift all your burdens to him, he will take care of you..

If you want... just IM me!!i'll try to help you..


~REIka~

Answer 8

all sweetheart i feel so bad try to do good in school thats important i been through it to it will blow over respect your grandfolks their just looking out . For having lots of friends is not that great some people are shady. Be very careful god is looking out for you i know life is crazy kid i hope you get through it sweetheart ok .BETTER DAYS ARE COMING .

Answer 9

pour out your sorrow to the one who you trust enough
i could understand your feeling,it is nature for a kids to expect getting love and support from their parents,when my dad shouted at me i feel very sad too,and then i tell myself that:suffering really makes me lose a lot,but in the meantime it gives me much more experience than anyone else:i think about things in a different way from others which enable me to deal with things much more easily.
in a word:when you see the difficulty,try to think of the bright aspect of it also.
if you think i could be a good audience of you i am glad to chat with you

Answer 10

Ask God for help. That's your only way out of this one.