My mom passed away 1 1/2 years ago. I really think my dad is lonely, and I'm gone most of the time. He's very religous (as am I) so he won't do one of those match.com things. How can I find some one that he can connect with, even if he doesn't marry them. HE'S FREAKIN' OLD!!!!!
2007-03-24 13:45:27 · 20 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My grandma just got married, her friend told her she might like to meet some dude that her friend knew. Maybe you could talk to one of his friends and get him to hook up your dad
2007-03-24 13:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my son after my divorce from his father. Within a year of the divorce he was trying to fix me up with his favorite teachers. He didn't find a thing wrong with having me have someone and I can see you don't either for your Dad.
The results? We all had a good laugh except for my son and I had to tell him to lay off. You don't want to stop and wonder at everyone you meet whether the kid has put in a plug for you or not. Ya kinda like to do things on - WHEN YOUR READY!
Lay off the old man. He's not old - I'm 58 and I'm not old either. We all know 100 is really old. Older than you but not old. Give the man some space for grivening. I still miss my third husband who died in 2002 and I don't think anyone can replace him.
Replacements are a pain. Let your Dad find his own way. When he is ready he will. Mean time BACK OFF. You keep medling in his life trying to get him a woman and he may feel the need to start medling in yours and try to find you a someone. Talk about a disater for both of you in the making!
Tic for tack - what goes around comes around. He's not drowning he has his religion and God will help heal all things. For now leave him BE.
2007-03-24 21:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by r_favorite_stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness, I'm almost that old!!! I was divorced for 10 years and busy rainsing 3 children alone when I bought a new home and a new computer. I never expected to be on one of those match sites, but that's where I met a wonderful man who next month will become my husband. Great for me. However, my dad passed away 12 years ago. My mother lives in another state and is happy as a lark to be alone. She stays busy with her hobbies and has no interest in anothjer man. Maybe your dad needs some other interests or hobbies. That may in turn bring someone into his life with common interests IF that's what HE desires. 1 1/2 years is really a short time when you consider how long he and your mother were probably together. Blessings to both of you.
2007-03-24 20:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sweet daughter he has.
Why should he not be happy with that?
Did you ever ask him what his opinion was on the matter?
If he wanted companionship, he'd find it.
If not, he may not be ready and that's his prerogative.
I'm sure you call him when you're away and he could have more of a life than you think!!!
I don't mean this in a bad way.
He is after all an adult!
You're still a very sweet daughter that any daddy would be proud and happy to be with.
I don't think you should worry so much...
Some things take time and he could be in constant touch with your mom's wonderful memories that still happen to be his favourite companion.
People may come and go but true love never dies.
2007-03-24 21:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around at your contacts and see if one or more of them have mothers that are single and close to the same age group. If so set up activities that will include you and your father and ask your friend to do the same with their mother. This could be going to the park, a play, school game or other school function. Your church also is a good source of activities. The event or activities are not so important as just expanding your dad's horizon. But be careful, he may still be missing your mother more than you are aware of and it takes a while to relearn some social skills you take for granted. And most importantly...59 is really not that old.
2007-03-24 21:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by merlin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, 59 not old! There are lots of women in there 50's!
To answer your question, He might be lonely, but not ready to date yet. Just give him some more time, he will find another when he is ready. Friends, relatives and church activities and hobbies are good ways to get rid of some of those lonely feelings. Don't set him up with anyone on line.
It must be hard for you to see your dad like that, check in on him.
2007-03-24 20:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Annette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im SURE there is a website for dating be it you are muslim or morman or Hindu or jewish.
just do a tiny bit of research and im sure within 5 minutes you will find a site full of people the same age as your dad who share his beliefs. open him up to the idea, say "dad i know ever since mom passed away you have been lonely..." then say "these woman share our beliefs and you can talk to them as much as you want online before you ever even have to meet them...and there is no obligation to even do that"
if he says no the first time he is probably nervous, so help him with the process of opening an account etc... he will like the idea eventually
2007-03-24 20:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by fb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his church has a group for older singles that he could join? You have good intentions, but I don't think you should be trying to "hook him up". Maybe you could be helping him connect with more people his age and make a few new friends (male AND female). And if it's meant for him to find love again, he will...it will find him, though. :o)
2007-03-24 20:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingawake653 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh I think you should get him a pet because relationships at age 59 dont exactly work. A Pomeranian is a good pet for the elderly.
2007-03-24 20:48:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your mom's passing. It is difficult I'm sure for all concerned. I am religious too...so I know how he feels about match.com.
2007-03-24 20:51:21 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋