how do i get my kids to listen to there mom and just be good kid clean there rooms and just be good all around

Question

please help

Answer 1

Support her and back her up and make the punishments stick. No matter what. And if they can't listen and at least pick up there rooms once a day. then take there stuff away and let them sit on there beds with nothing to do. We don't have to let them have money or all that other junk. They are given it and if they want to keep they need to follow the rules and treat it with respect. If you disagree with something discuss it alone and away from the kids.

Answer 2

Shut their bedroom doors. Believe it or not there is a point where kids WILL clean their rooms...I found this out by simply shutting my daughter's bedroom door and not discussing the cleanin of her room. It's HER environment let her deal with it. Listening..well that depends on what form of discipline you use. I prefer the behavior and reward system . That is where in order to get a privelige (television, stereo, phone, computer, game system, etc) the child has to behave and EARN a privelige and I set time limits, no more than an hour of television time, or computer (unless for homework) and the phone was a pay as you go plan so I controlled the minutes, and no texting becuase texting costs double sometimes triple what a phone call costs. I also never negotiated. I didn't care what someone else was allowed to do or that someone else had a cooler mom...fine pack your stuff and move down to someone else's house.

Answer 3

They will not always be good, and it's a kids job to push their boundaries. That said.... You control all their 'stuff' in life. Find out what they really like and then use it to reward good behaviour. It is very important to catch kids doing things RIGHT and then letting them know how pleased you are. We often don't reward when they are good, just punish when they are bad.
Their rooms are their private areas. Close the door and do a once a week 'sweep' together. All dirty clothes, food under the bed etc etc. Leave them alone the rest of the time. If dirty clothes don't make it to the laundry, you can't wash them, they'll have to do without.
Listen as much to your kids as you expect them to listen to you. And, like an earlier poster said.... pick your battles.
Good luck.

Answer 4

Be a parent. No means no. Stop asking the kids to help and tell them to help. BIG difference. Who runs the family? You or the kids? Get strict with them. You'll all be happier in the long run. I have 4 sons that are now VERY successful, 2 own their own homes, all have good jobs and are active in family and community. And I was very strict with them when they were growing up.

Answer 5

how old are they, and what have they been allowed to do? if they don't listen, then they have never been made to listen, and have been allowed not to listen

it is human nature(from birth) to be a hellion. Babies become selfish, and quickly just expect you to do for them, into the time when they can actually do it themself. toddlesr lie,manipulate, and destroy things when they don't get what they want, children mouthoff, and start swearing.

show them that you will turn their world upside down, and destroy it, if they don't listen to you. if you don't, they really don't care what you tell them to do, and will ignore you. then they will try to find the path of least resistance, nail them when they don't do exactly as you say.

if you start early, you will have good kids. if you do nothing when they don't listen to you, then you will have teenagers who are selfish,lie,swear, and break things when they don't get their way

consistant punishment that they absolutley hate is the only way.

Answer 6

how old are your kids?...teenagers can be very difficult under the age of 11 taking something that they value away until they earn it back normally works...under the age of 5 a time out according to age for example 4yrs. old a 4min. time out etc.

Answer 7

You don't; they're kids.

To be a good parent you need to lead by example. In the end though, just take a moment during a stressful time and ask yourself, "Is this going to make a difference in how they turn out when they're 30?"

To ensure you keep your sanity and they keep their childhood, remember to pick your battles!

Good luck!

Answer 8

Pretend to give them something they like. When they try to get it, tell them that they need to clean there rooms and be good to get it.

Answer 9

start making them from a young age

Answer 10

The belt works wonders.