i'm 14! still haven't ad my 1st kiss and really want a boyfriend!!! every time i like somebody i'm afraid 2 tell thembecause i'm afraid of rejection!!!!!!!! when somebody aks me out i'm afraid 2 say yes cause i think it's a jopke!!! wat should i do?????????????????
2007-03-24 13:27:28 · 15 answers · asked by susan m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey you, stop worrying, just be yourself and relax, life ain't about the 1st kiss! when the time is right you will meet that boy, don't rush into it just because you feel left behind, you may regret it!! just enjoy being 14 and have fun yeh!xx
2007-03-24 13:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by bells 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww i know plenty of people that are much older than u that haven't yet kissed a boy, your still young!!
many people are afraid of rejection. maybe u should just make sure that the guy likes u first before asking him out.
what girls in school used to do was ask a guy out, if he said no then they would say it was a dare. sad i know but it will probably help with the fear of rejection.
would also work the other way, if a guy asks u out and u say yes, then if he wasn't being serious u can just say u were dared to go out with him.
i know it all sounds really pathetic, but u always have this idea as a back up!! just be really confident with yourself, you'll find the right guy!! :)
2007-03-24 13:42:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you dont wana hear this but your still young dont worry about kissing etc! if you go kissing the wrong boy youll regret it!
the right one will come along and youll get an amazing kiss and youll be glad you waited!
for the time being try and get over this shyness of yours! try speaking to boys more often as friends to build up your knowledge of what boys are like! so then youll be able to tell in the future if a boy is serious about you or not! and by buliding friendships you will also feel more comfortabloe round the other sex!
oh and being rejected is never a nice feeling but we all go through it as some time! even the person that turns you down will be turned down (or may have already). good luck honey! xxxxxx
2007-03-24 13:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First my dear u shouldn't give ur age out at all as there are nasty people about, u are leaving urself wide open to pervs etc. If u get a reply and he says he is around ur age and wishes to meet u, then dont he may not be who he says. So please for ur safety forget this question, delete it, dont give any details out to anyone, male or female, even females as they say they are may be A MALE PERV. Hundreds of young girls your age have been murdered or raped.
So do yourself a big favour and delete ur message, if u think people are on to you t6hen change your nickname.
Best of luck, and Ps If ur 14 and pretty enough u will hsve no probs getting a boyfriend, judt remember this, there is always someone in this world for everyone, its just a wait and see.
Good luck, God bless and play safe.
Jimmy Scottish gentleman 51 years old married with 2 kids now living on Essex coast. LOL xx
2007-03-24 13:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by DIAMOND_GEEZER_56 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop breaking your head about it. It will come naturally!!! Just be yourself... Rejection is a part of life. If you can't take it now, you'll have a real hard time for the rest of your life. It's part of growing up and learning about life. You can't be afraid to live now, can you? For everything, there is a way and there exists a time for every thing under the sun. If it's worth having, it's worth waiting for.
But you're so young, it's not bad to be careful and discreet. The longer you wait, the better you'll fair in that department. Have many friends of all sorts, this is how you'll get to know yourself better.
Then you'll be better equipped to know who is really best for you.
Young girls can often get themselves in an awful pile of troubles when they find themselves alone with a boy.
Try to have fun in groups of people, this is a great way to grow up healthier and happier.
Of course, at your age, I don't expect you to believe me. It all depends on your level of wisdom, maturity and ingegrity. Take care of yourself... There's only one you...
and so many boys out there who could hurt you.
I hope you will consider the words of a girl who was once in your shoes and who got very hurt.
Enjoy your youth as long as you possibly can.
It could be the best days of your life with the right attitude and perspective. In passing, when's the last time you considered curling up in your favorite PJ, with your favorite refreshment with a captivating book?
2007-03-24 13:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are afraid of rejection you might never get a man cause you wil also be afriad of getting dumped. So get over your fear by getting friends as boys to get to actually know what they are like so you know when a boy is joking and when he is not. Here's the big one don't just go out with anyone, you might regret it later. You always want to make someone like you so they wont know that you're needy. It would also help if you flirt with boys. Its not easy girl, if not know than later.
2007-03-24 13:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experience youth first before you lose it, the last thing you want at your young age is to meet someone who puts you in "the club",then all would be lost almost, at such a young age,intime you will meet someone you can connect with in the meantime think about what you really want to do with your life?
2007-03-25 00:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the right one, even if you are 18 by that time. I have a handsome son who just couldn't find anyone to date, he started really doubting himself. This year, he started to work out and kept his fingers crossed, found out the entire Varsity Cheerleading squad liked him, and he dated the one he liked the most. Sometimes not settling for just anyone pays off.
2007-03-24 13:31:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey!! u sound like me!!
except im 13...
anyways... if u like someone, and u think there is a possiblity that they could like u back... make sure that u try and flirt with him and tell ur friend to ask his friend if he likes u and do it like that.
As if soemone asks u out... say "sure" in a casual way and so if it does turn out to be a joke say "ok" and walk off acting like u didnt even care in the first place
GOOD LUCK
ps. just remeber boys arent everything... but they are something!
2007-03-24 13:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by anysportzchik 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just go for it! actually I went for the direct approach and right now I think it worked!
2007-03-24 14:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by girlygirl8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋