I have been talking to this guy for sometime, but because he is in the army he was in Iraq for 7 months. He just came back for a break and lives 2-3 hours from me. I understand that he needs time to spend with his family and other friends, but the fact that he and I are trying to be more than friends I would think that he would want to spend time with me. We have only spent about 2 days together (We would talk almost everyday when he was in Iraq). When I am with him he is very sweet and acts like he wants to be with me, but when he goes back home he might call me every other day because he parties at night and does not wake up until 7pm, but i call him and he sometimes does not call me back. I mean dang, I care about him sooo much and this is crazy mess. I know he just wants to have fun, but i don't know if i should trust him telling me that he cares, when maybe he doesn't.
2007-03-24 13:02:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has told me that he sees himself with me in the long run.
The prob. is he is in a different state, so I can't just go have dinner with him when I want (plus he doesn't normally answer his phone)
2007-03-24 13:10:24 · update #1
He is a soldier and he'll need his space. That said, let him know there's a woman waiting for him when he wants to settle down.
2007-03-24 13:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. i think i just might be the perfect guy to help you here.. not only am i great on relationship advice.. im in the army too.. and im in iraq right now.. i alread went home for leave.. so i know how this guy is feeling.. well let me tell you.. he has been in iraq away from pretty women and if he is infantry then away from all women..and you said he parties a lot.. why not with you? and he wants some kinda of female next to him on these 2 weeks.. do doubt about it.. he wont see another one for at least 5 more months right? so you have to ask yourself.. why he isnt with you.. it sounds as if he hasnt seen you at all since he has been back.. why? and doesnt even call you everyday.. of course he has family to be with but one day with most is fine and mom and dad and grandma will want a lot more.. basicaly the day is the family and the nite is the friends and yours .. the gf.. but if he isnt trying to get you there is that question again why? im going to have to answer this and your not going to like it.. there is someone else.. and he is most likey playing you.. he cant have both of you around at the same time right.. so if he is home for only 2 weeks.. and sees you once or twice.. get rid of him.. no matter how much he plays mr. nice guy.. ok.. so number one.. ask him.. when can you guys be together.. he can party with you there.. and if not.. then let him go.. he is playing you cause he will be gome for a year right.. and he needs to be sure someone is here waiting for him when he gets back.. and not many women wait that long.. and i believe he is keeping his "options" open.. get me? alright i dont mean to be the guy with bad news... if he did care he'd be with you right now.. when i went on leave i was with my gf.. every single day.. and my family.. there is no reason not too.. ok good luck.. let me know how it goes.
dr.icebreaker
2007-03-24 20:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is also in the ARMY. I mean yah you can trust him for now, but if you two start actually being a real couple then he shouldn't be going out and partying all the time. I mean before me my husband got married when he came home from being in training he would see me everyday, but a lot of times during the day he would be doing other things so I would only see him at night. So anyways... From what you say he seems like he really does care about you, so just talk to him about how you are feeling, and see if anything happens from there. Good luck. :)
2007-03-24 20:12:42 · answer #3 · answered by Emili T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first off I'm not saying this guy isn't interested in you because he could be.
He just got from Iraq and is just excited to be home so he wants to see a lot of people that are really important to him. You need to put on your big girl pants and let him do that. If you just get upset that he isn't spending tons of time with you he'll move on, no questions asked. You need to let him deal with coming back from war how he needs to deal with it.
However, it is not uncommon for guys in combat zones to latch onto girls that they normally wouldn't be that interested in. They need all the support they can get and they'll take it where they can find it. So it is possible he isn't that interested and was purely talking to you everyday for the extra support. I don't care what the conversations were about either. It's not unheard of for guys in the military to get engaged to multiple girls while they're in a combat zone. They're just looking for any support and sanity they can find.
Now take all that with a grain of salt and do whatever.
2007-03-24 20:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by air_of_truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favour, go and have fun. From what you have put in the question, he just wants to have fun and not have a serious relationship at this stage.
You are probably setting yourself up to fail and get a lot of hurt.
In short give yourself time out! hang with friends and stop calling him. Try and gain back some of the old you and put energy in things that are going to give you back something in return - i.e. happyness instead of heart break.
Good luck
2007-03-24 20:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by O2Phone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to have a relationship with this guy. Remember he's been to Iraq, in war and may go back again. His life is full of uncertainty and risk right now. The time to persue something serious is when he's back for good.
2007-03-24 20:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not confused u just want to know where you stand . talk to him tell him gently that you want to meet him for a romatic dinner or something of that sort find out where you stand in his eyes . if its just freind be ready for that. you cant get any less than what you already have but you can get a lot more if you open up
2007-03-24 20:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by aggadan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just came back from reality, blood ,guts cut of heads ,guns, dead baby's,and that was just on the plane returning
2007-03-24 20:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by wisper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋