should i tell him?

Question

i've been in a serious relationship&each day i fall deeper in love with him. But there is this guy in one of my classes(name: Sam)... and he is also in a serious relationship. okay.. i was just playing with my cellphone when Sam asked to borrow it.he gaved it back&i searched my phone just 2 see if he did something. he told me he gave me his phone#. it did not really matter to me.B/C i know the guy&hes cool and all.so in the night when i was getting ready2fall asleep,Sam called me. i was stunned at his phonecall b/c i did not expect it.well we were just talking for about 30 minutes when he told me he had something very important to tell me&that i had to keep it a secret.he told me he has a crush on me.which was wierd b/c it looks like he loves his grlfriend.i was amazed by what he told me.. Also b/c Sam&my bf are friends... and it was just really random. and bout the secret, i do not like keeping secrets from my bf. So do you think my boyfriend would want to know? Shpuld i tell him? :(

Answer 1

Without trust, you can't have a relationship. Yes, your boyfriend would want to know this. His friend just hit on his girl. Trust me, he would want to know. Also, his girlfriend has the right to know about the phone call. His girlfriend deserves a guy that can treat her better. Keeping quiet about the phone call only makes you look bad. You stand to lose if you don't tell your guy. Next time sam calls you, tell him that you are uncomfortable with him calling. Tell him that you are happily involved with your boyfriend and have no intentions of ruining your relationship. That should be enough for him to take the hint and not call you again. If Sam and your bf's friendship comes to an end over this, oh well. A real friend would never hit on his buddies girl. But let your boyfriend decide for himself how he wants to handle your news. The sooner you tell your boyfriend about the phone call, the better you look.

Answer 2

I think you should tell him. If this guy Sam is really his friend, then he should have a lot more respect then to be trying to hit on his gf behind his back.

And if by any chance you DO have feelings for Sam, or are thinking about being with him. Remember that right now he has a gf and is hitting on you, what would he do behind your back?

Answer 3

well i wouldn't tell him because its no a big deal and its just a tiny secret and you no how guys can over react and if you do tell him if hes the jealous type he mite not want you to talk to (Sam was it?) anymore and then that's a friend lost or hell like really get worried when your with same or talking to him but basically i wouldn't it mite cause unnecessary trouble

Answer 4

Hmmmm...seems like your in a tough situation but relationships are based on honestly and trust so I think you shouldn't keep it from him and just tell him or just go with your gut instinct. I hope my advice helps and good luck to you =)

Answer 5

Well if you don't like keeping that to yourself, just tell your friend that you don't like lying and keeping secrets and if someone asks you that then you will tell the truth. Don't tell anyone unless they ask you that specifically. It's not lying because they never asked.

Answer 6

ewwwwwwwwww that sucks but that is a hard one if u think sam is a great kid and u think he is kool then dont tell ur boyfriend rite away. but if u really dont like sam then tell ur boyfriend rite away this happened 2 me also and i havent told my boyfriend cuse his friend told me not 2 tell him and so i havent but i dont know cuse its hard.....if u really dont want 2 keep this from ur boyfriend then tell him cuse u think he needs 2 know but if u dont really care then dont tell him

Answer 7

NO