successful threesome?

Question

me and my husband are very young. i have never been with anyone else and he has only been with one other woman. i feel that we are very strong and can do this. i just really want someones advice and opinion who has been through all of this.

Answer 1

I have known so many people who've done threesomes and it ruined their relationship. They all said the same thing as you about being really strong in their relationship and it can handle it. I wouldn't do it if I were you, it's not worth it. I don't want to go into the details I would want to tell you on here, so if you want to know about some experiences you can e-mail me and I'll tell you through e-mail.

Answer 2

My wife and I have been in the swinger lifestyle for years, and we've had a great time. And yes, it is technically swinging when a married or otherwise committed couple engage in sex with other couples and singles. Some may not call it that, but it is.

We've known only two couples in the lifestyle that have split-up, and neither was because of the lifestyle. One was trying to use swinging to "fix" their failing relationship, and the other was simply other things like money and kid issues. We are still friends with all four parties, so we know this first hand.

The key is that you are secure in yourself, each other, and in your relationship and that you can separate recreational sex from love-sex. Also, the idea of you're spouse having a great time is as appealing to you as you having a great time. Another point is to be sure to lay down ground rules about what you are comfortable with happening and what you are not. Such as is kissing, fondling and oral okay, but not full intercourse. Or is everything okay? Is separate room or solo play okay? Or not? Stuff like that. As you get more comfortable these rules may get more lenient, but it's better to have them in place to begin with.

For some more, really good and objective information, check-out The Swingers Board. The forums there are free and chalk-full of great advice from people from all walks of life that engage in threesomes and moresome.

Answer 3

My wife and I have had a few threesomes, and they've been good for us. Be prepared, though. Don't go into this thinking nothing will change. A lot of things will change. If you bring in another woman, you might just discover that you like being with women. If you bring in another man, you might find that you don't like having to divide your attention.

And what if you/he develop feelings for the third? Don't ever dilude yourself with "It won't happen to us." Talk about it! Be prepared, no matter how unlikely it is.

Another possibility, one that my wife and I weren't really prepared for but didn't cause us any problems: what if she develops feelings for your husband, or he develops feelings for you? I can honestly say I don't love anyone like I love my wife. So when the other woman started calling and asking for me and saying, "I love you," it took me way off guard. It was very flattering, but I wasn't sure how to tell her that I didn't feel the same way.