we been goin out for a month. and he doesnt seem to have time for me. he talks to me like once a week. and he tells me he wants me to comuicate with him. he wants me to love him, wants me to be there for him but how am i gona do dat if we talk once a week not even for an hour. and i really like him i really wanna get to know him cuz i feel that we can work things out and have a really good relationship, but how am i gonna do that. he is a really sweet guy in general and i just got outta bad relatonship and i told him dat he told me baby u dnt have to worry but its not any diffrent. it really isnt and i dont know what to do anymore should i give him anouther chance or shud i break up with him. and the works part is i cant even talk to him on the phone because his phone is turened of so he calls me on his friends phone. and he is never home or online and its really breaking my heart and ive been thinkin if i should break up with him. should i or jus give him another chance.
2007-03-24 12:57:23 · 15 answers · asked by gh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on,................
2007-03-24 13:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by iroc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its early in the relationship and yall are already having problems. Well me personally I would call it quits because yall have noooo communication. That is 1 of the top 4 thing you need
1. Trust
2. Communication
3. Respect
4. Attention
If I was missing 3 out of 4 he would be gone. How long was it before you started dating him that you was without a boyfriend? If it was right out of the relationship or within 2 months you should have taken a little longer to take care of yourself. But don't just say ADIOS because I said so, follow your heart express these feeling to him, he said he wanted you to communicate right? On the next phone call tell him everything and see if things get better, if its his friends phone he would be able to call more often and there are things called PAY PHONES.
2007-03-24 20:15:03 · answer #2 · answered by chnkymnky_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go out with me and I can call or be with u all the time
lol just kidding...its hard, my girlfriend lives in France and we see each other 2 weeks a month, other than that we always talk on the phone, online, txt messages and still send letters coze they have a special feelings bout them..u see good communication comes before love, if he's not willing to improve his communication there's no point for this relationship otherwise u'd be going out with the wind, especially on your 1st month! but on the other hand it shouldn't be more than 1 hour call a day no less than 30min because you both need a bit of freedom.
if communication doesn't work by phone, online, or txt then he must see you in person at least 3 times a week for minimum 2 hours or for the weekends evenings and afternoons that way you can get to know each other more and find out weather you both fit or you both can live together in the future.
guard your first impressions, think of the future first. dont go to easy solutions such as breaking up, solution first..if its realy impossible and u feel annoyed or bad about it, there's plenty fish in the sea my dear..
good luck!
2007-03-24 21:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by youtube.com/reply4reply 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my boyfriend had the same issue in the beginning of the relationship..but actually, we were testing who wanted to call who first..We've been together for almost 4 years now..
Give it some time if you like and see where it takes you..Does he not have a home phone? How shady..! If you're sick of waiting around, leave..you' ve only been together for a month, and not really, considering the fact that you barely talk..It's like you have a relationship, but don't..
2007-03-24 20:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by baebeecakes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear why so confused ! its your life ......you know better what your heart want but ONLY THINK TO REMEMBER IS FUTURE ,IT SHOULD NOT BE DARK PAGES WHEN YOU REBERT BACK IN FUTURE .Think about that if you can handle the consequence go ahead nor else life have a lot of open option ,that will not make any difference...........
ALL the BEST !
I will say listen to your heart as love is precious and you are very luck to have that but if should not be inflacutaion
2007-03-25 21:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by Prakash Chandra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to say not being in your shoes.I'll tell you what I did.
I was there for 'him' for a long time but we ended up splitting.No communication is really hard on a relationship.If he treats you good thats a definate plus.If it were me I'd just be friends and go from there.Your gonna want closeness and he's probably trying.So you'll just have to weigh it out.
2007-03-24 20:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by gotabedifferent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he never has time for you and he's never online or anything then he probably doesn't love you as much as you want him to. Maybe he hasn't had time for you because he's seeing another girl on the side and you don't know it. Just let him be and find another boyfriend.
2007-03-24 20:06:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give a chance and try repeatedly for his company and have a satisfaction with him. Instead of worrying yourself, meet once and enjoy and then leave it for ever.
2007-03-27 05:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by sr50kandala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you've been going out for a month and you're already this psycho?
I hope the poor guy can get free before it's too late.
Yikes.
2007-03-24 20:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by laffryot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl get out of that relationship and move on . i dont think he have any feeling for you so dum him before he dum you.
2007-03-24 20:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by pretty mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he's telling you want you want to hear. Actions speak louder than words.
2007-03-24 20:01:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋