how do i enjoy life again?

Question

It just feels like I’ve had my personality sucked out of me! I don't know who I am anymore. Most the time I just feel so dull and low, where I just cry for no reason at all, hiding away in my room away from everyone else. Other times I’m enjoying life.
It’s like I’m trapped in this cycle, each days the same, I’m bored of it

The thing is since I moved to a new town a few years ago I have never had close friends like I used to. Msn is as far as my social life goes (sad I know). Ocaially we would meet up if it was someone’s birthday, that’s about it.
My family used to be much closer as well, but all we ever seem to do now is argue.

I feel like I’ve lost all motivation to life. How do I start enjoying my life again?

Answer 1

The first step you need to take is to make an appointment with your Doctor. You are displaying classic symptons of depression. You may need to try antidepressents to give you that boost to take control and start enjoying life again. Good luck, things will not always be as bleak as they seem now

Answer 2

Nobody knows the real answer except you. I culd make a thousands suggestions and none would fit. OK. First, it's "change you or change your friends". Try doing something extra and different. Visit museums. Learn a language then go eat at restaurants from that culture. Go meet community groups that speak that language. Immerse. If your friends follow, great! If not, you'll make extra friends. Do what interests you and thigns will follow. Step into the river and swim with YOUR tide, don't swim upstream to fit someone else's idea of who you are, or what's comfortable. Want to be different? Australia was a group called The Society for Creative Anachronism. These guys, and girls, make their own armour, paint their own shields and have weekends away as Medieval fairs. They visit the "real world" to work during the week, but they live and enjoy another era at weekends. I'm sure the USA has similar groups. As for the boyfriend... 1. Go together to the library and each borrow 2 books. If he wants sex (don't they always?) then he has to persuade you by the passion he puts into reading one of his chosen books, e.g. The Home Mechanics Guide to Repairing your Honda. Now this could be funny as hell but it will be a new adventure together (don't give in early, no matter what his muffler manifold is doing). 2. Try this with clothes on, or not. Blindfold each other (nothing more difficult than that). Explore each other with caresses, pref no more than 3-4 seconds each. Anyone who speaks pays a fine (say, $10) and the game stops (right there!!). This is about patience. 3. Go for moonlight walks on a beach. Just break your routine! With your friends --- "MEAL TICKET" Go to dinner with yr BF and 4-6 friends. The person who chooses the venue is the "host" for the night. Everyone brings a small card or slip of paper with a topic of conversation and their name. Each topic is read as they arrive and, if approved by a majority, it goes into a hat. If rejected, the person has 5 minutes to write a new topic or leave (this is to ensure people take it seriously). During dinner, a topic is drawn. Its author gets 2 minutes or less to make their case. The most stimulating topic voted on the night entitles the winner to have their meal free (everyone else pays a little extra). Dinner AND entertainment! Maybe try this at home before doing it in public. Other options: help at a soup kitchen. Help others so you appreciate what you have and others don't.

Answer 3

You don't say how old you are - but I don't suppose that is really the issue here anyway! You need the support of your family and you do need to make new (good) friends. This is the difficult part and something which can't be forced. Think about something you would really like to do - maybe a new career, hobby or interest. Focus on making that happen. By changing your goals and aspirations, even slightly, you will automatically widen your social circles and meet more people. This in turn will help to give you more confidence and the opportunity to make new friends. Good luck and I hope you can begin to look forward to the rest of your life.

Answer 4

You seem to be in a transitional phase, with just a hint of mania that you can use various activities to level off, such as meditation, yoga, writing in a journal (your own version of therapy to give you a valuable "third eye perspective"), or something cathartic---like singing, screaming at the top of your lungs (a cosmic burp of sorts)...

Think of someone besides yourself---do volunteer work or help someone who is homeless or lonely. This will make you feel good about yourself and get you out of being so egocentric. Check out a local theater group and draw from your emotions for the roles you would play.

Answer 5

I can totally related with you. I go through major ups and downs in life..Sometimes life is wonderful and other times it total crap....you just have to stop thinking so much...when you feel like that you seriously just need to watch a good movie or read a good book...learn how to entertain yourself and enjoy time to yourself...and if you get lonely...just make some friends to kill time with..there are plenty of people out there that are just as bored as you and I'm sure you can find people to make you laugh and enjoy life and not be so depressed. Just remember life is a gift and you only have 1 life to live and need to make the most of it. good luck

Answer 6

I once had the problem you had where you felt like you didn't know yourself anymore. You will need to find something to do to make you happy. Get a nice drink, read a book, then go on MSN and chat and you should be as good as new. :)

Also about your family - you should all go as a family somewhere to watch a movie or ride bikes, etc. and maybe things will get better. I wish you good luck :)

Answer 7

Enjoying life is your birth right.No body except you can enjoy or destroy your happiness.From your writing it is clear that your problem is having no friends or social life.You come out of your shell and mingle with peope.The book How to Win Friend is worth reading.Be come member of some local club.Understand happpiness is just state of mind.Living life,having somebody to care all you can achieve.You have to be positive.Good Luck.

Answer 8

classic signs of depression up one minute down the next, i really feel for you, i would visit your G.P. and explain this to them, they may prescribe you a short term anti-depressant, i was on them for 6 months last year and it helped me see the light, it lifted my mood and i could focus on the positives in my life.I made a concerted effort to go out, i joined the gym and gradually started to make friends, once the darkness had lifted i felt like a different person,.... i felt like me again.. then i could walk oout of the door and my confidence was back, i now have a new job and have met loads of new friends, it does get better i promise you but the first step is help, so please seek it. good luck

Answer 9

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. SOunds like you could be depressed.

Maybe you could find something of interest to do - like a new hobby or something to meet more people.

If you're depressed you won't feel like doing this, but this will pass. One day your life won't look so bleak. Good luck

Answer 10

Get a puppy!!

or go volunteer at a pet shelter.......animals always seem to bring ou the best in all of us!!