I met this guy a little over a year ago felt an instant connection. As I got to know him better and discovered how great he is my feelings just got stronger. He's gorgeous, sweet, funny...but he has a girlfriend. I've tried my best to reason with my feelings and move past this, but when I think I've made some headway, I see him and realize I haven't. It prolly doesn't help any that we spend alot of time around each other either. I need some advice please. I've heard that he's happy where he is and I want him to be happy so I really need to work thru these feelings. Anyone had a crush on someone they couldn't have who's willing to help out before I find myself even more head over heels for him? I've fallen hard and that's not good.
2007-03-24 12:55:32 · 11 answers · asked by okwriting 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OMG....i have the same exact problem right now....I really like my friend, but she has a boyfriend......what i do to work through my feelings for her is just to think what is best for her.... if she is happy with her current boyfriend...then i shouldnt do anything.....you seem like you have most things in control......the best thing to help this is to think of their happiness.....you cant control your feelings but you can control your actions......the hardest part is having to see them every day, and the best thing to do to deal with that is to think how you would feel if someone did the same thing to you....
realize that you cant have them right now....if for some strange reason his current relationship doesnt work out then you can do something...but not right now....
You spend a lot of time with him and that shouldnt change....you could try to find someone else that you find attractive......
please let me know how all of this turn out......so i can know if my advice is actually worth something..
Good Luck.....
2007-03-24 13:07:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sancho... 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know what you mean. It's hard to get over someone who you treally like that fast, but, you have to do it. If you hang around each other a lot just hold back. Find someone else that you like and really you have to get over him so that you can move on with your love life. It will make you happy and hey! Maybe him and his girlfriend will breakup. Haha well i dont know about that but if he does and he has the same feelings for you that you have for him. If he asks you out but you already are over him then just say what your heart tells you and either it will tell you go or no. If it's too late than it's too late. I hope this helps you with your problem and for your problems in the future.
2007-03-24 13:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 YEARS?! That's a long time. Did it work out? It better had. And yes I have had a long term crush. a few years. nowhere near 5 though.
2016-03-29 02:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I know how you feel!!! I've been there and Its not fun is it? Well, you have to lose contact with him. You'll never get over him if you are hanging around him all the time.Does he know how you feel? If so then its very mean on his part to still hang around you. Obviously he is just doing it because he likes the attention and the pain he is causing you makes him feel good about himself. So don't give him the pleasure of seeing you heartbroken. If he doesn't know how you feel then you need to get him out of your life anyway. There is no point of loving a man that doesn't love you. Good luck:)
2007-03-24 13:07:43 · answer #4 · answered by MalinaB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the exact same situation. Only thing is he and I both have crazy feelings for each other. I really need help resolving this issue too!
2007-03-24 13:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by cheyelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I can help you with that because i had a crush on this boy for three years and it liked to killed me, try finding interest in some other guy, it helped me
2007-03-24 13:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i had a crush on this guy for like 2 yrs, but he had a girlfriend. i tried to look for all the bad aspects in him, i know that sounds mean, but it worked. and i also made myself pay lots of attention to another guy and that made me start having crush on him instead.
2007-03-24 13:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by emzie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL(I'VE BEEN THERE) YOU DON'T WANNA MESS UP THE RELATIONSHIP HE HAS IF PEOPLE TELL YOU HE'S HAPPY! WHEN I HAD A CRUSH ON THIS ONE GUY WHO HAD A GIRLFRIEND I HAD TO LET HIM GO(IT WAS HARD) BUT I DID IT FOR ME....YOU HAVE TO DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU. YOU DON'T WANNA HAVE THIS GUY ALL UP IN YOUR FACE KNOWING YOUR FEELINGS FOR HIM BECAUSE ITS GONNA GET HARDER EVERYDAY, AND AT THE END OF THE DAY YOU END UP HURTING YOURSELF AND THATS NO GOOD(TRUST. BEEN THERE...DONE THAT) WALK AWAY NOW BEFORE YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM! I WISH SOMEONE WOULD OF TOD ME THAT, BECAUSE IT WOULD OF KILLED AOLT OF PAIN AND HEARTACHE SWEETIE. I FOUND MYSELF HEAD OVER HILLS FOR A GUY FOR 5 YRS. AND TRUST ME WHEN I TELL YOU THIS "IT WAS NOT FUN"
2007-03-24 13:12:56 · answer #8 · answered by brownsuga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh my story is just about like yours but he liked me but i didnt like him... and later he was over me and i was as you said Head over heals for him.. and its was back to back of corse i've gotten over him at least i hope i have and moved on with other guys.. we are still friends and he likes me agian but i got my eye on another hottie... so It may take a while and i mean a while it took me like 5 months before i liked other boys again so Good luck it will be hard but you can get thro it...
2007-03-24 13:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a new crush.
2007-03-24 12:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by StreetPunk93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋