How many people have a problem that they have been talking/complaining to a friend about, then you find out that they have a problem too and then you feel all guilty because you were complaining to them when they have their own problems? Should you/I feel guilty?
2007-03-24 12:48:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
I think real friends should be there for each other no matter what. Everybody has problems, sharing them and talking about them helps to solve those problems.
My friends have problems too, but I know I can always talk to them about mine because they talk to me about theirs. :)
2007-03-24 12:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lexi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a catch 22, you can beat yourself up over the fact that you have a problem and no one to talk to or you can find a friend who will listen. Once the friend has heard your problem, be fair and considerate and lend your ear to help them too. Its human to have problems, everyone does...you can choose NOT to feel guilty though. Someone once told me its awfully hard to feel sorry for yourself if you're too busy helping others. Maybe this is a way you could give back to all those who have been there for you. Just a thought. Good luck with this.
2007-03-24 20:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural to sometimes talk about yourself to much and I also think it's natural to feel guilty, but you still have time to say sorry. TO answer your question, I once bossed my friend around a lot, I realize now I was SO mean, lol. Even though it's been like 5 or 6 years later I still feel guilty, but I told her i'm sorry. Now she hangs out with her own friends and I hang out with mine, but even then, we're friends. Explain to her you're sorry, and that you'll listen to her a lot more and be a better friend, everything will fall into place for you.
2007-03-24 19:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people open up only after you have demonstrated your trust level in them. Trusting another person with telling them the very private areas of your life can be very hard to do. Trust is a big issue.
The sharing of private things similar to your same issues can open the flood gate for both parties. You should never feel bad if you did not know however, once you do know and you show little empathy for your friend you should feel terrible. Unfortunately those without empathy rarely feel bad for another because they have no capacity for those feelings.
2007-03-25 01:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally I would feel guilty but at least you feel guilty all my friends do is call me about their problems and what made them mad that day or to barrow money or barrow my car, but on the bright side I feel proud that my friends look up to me and look for my advise. I think you should just call your friend say a small problem that you have and then ask her about hers.
2007-03-24 19:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by chnkymnky_1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe guilty at first, but as others have said--just return the favor and listen to her problems.
Yes, most people do have problems. So just share problems. That is what good friends are for.
2007-03-24 21:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't feel guilty because you didn't know they had a problem. Now that you've had your turn to rant and now that you know your friend has a problem, you can be there for her/him like they were there for you.
2007-03-24 19:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by <3 alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats what friends are there for... i listen to my friends complaints too... the thing is..when they have BIGGER problems...u should just be thankful that u dont have those problems.. and stop complaining
2007-03-24 20:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by vanessa p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what friends are for -- just make sure you listen when they tell you their problems.
2007-03-24 19:56:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋