ok so in brief my boyfriend doesn't tell me much about himself nor does he really talk to me (but he is someone who usually doesn't talk) but when im with him and his friends he seems to talk a lot more. is it because he's comfortable with them but not me? also how do i get him to be how he is with his friends but with me?
2007-03-24 12:43:38 · 10 answers · asked by karne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is probably more comfortable with his friends because a friend is way different than a relationship. Sometimes it gets awkward and it's hard to say things. He probably wants to open up to you but is having trouble. Become friends with his friends so you can hang out with him when he's with his friends, his friends can help you understand his personality. Open up to him and show him you want to get to know him more. He'll start to feel more comfortable with you and soon you'll be like one of his guys.. except with more kissing :]
2007-04-01 05:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this sounds so familiar to my situation. I went through the same thing with my boyfriend so I know how you feel. I think you're boyfriend is not so comfortable with you so you have to try your best to make him comfortable and reassure him that he can tell you anything. You have to try hard to gain his trust and tell him how you feel if he doesn't tell you how he feels. I also think that he's more comfortable with his friends so try talking to him and asking him why doesn't he open up to you. Try reassuring him like I said and just try gaining his trust. Let him tell you things and help him whenever he needs help that way he knows that he can rely on you if he needed help. If he has any secrets that he wishes to share, don't tell anyone. Sooner or later, he will get used to you once he trusts you (if thats why hes not telling you anything) and start telling you things. Just give him time to open up and find out why he's not telling you his feelings.
2007-03-24 19:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AAHHH, If the secret be known, there are girls and guys who just don't like to be relaxed around someone who is either new to the group, or is liked more than his friends, but, he feels more comfortable around them. It really sounds like you are over-reacting, time will always tell. Just be yourself, be affectionate, but not lovey! The ice will break, or it wasn't meant to be. Good Luck and God Bless !!
2007-04-01 18:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by fuzzypetshop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He kind of reminds me oh my ex he would never open up to me so what i did most of the time was open up to him start doing this for him beside myself.
I think that he is just shy around you. What I would do is just start off slowly by asking him what do you wanna talk about.Start off with the little things first maybe he will open up to you
2007-04-01 18:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by missnewshawty_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like my hubby too! They dont really understand! They dont think its that much of a big deal. He will probally always be like that with his friends and wont even notice its bothering you! But Im sure he will always love you! Men are just soo different to women its unbelievable and then they say that they cant understand us, lol Dont worry too much about it.
2007-04-01 15:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband used to be the same way. After party's and hanging out with his friends I saw the same thing, so after a while I just told him straight out that he can talk to me and trust me. You guys are together so you need to be able to talk and have good communication to make things work out.
2007-03-29 23:41:34 · answer #6 · answered by ~never again~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason men think that we don't understand them. I say give him space and when he's ready he'll talk. Don't pressure him, it will only push him away.
2007-04-01 19:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by My Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this sounds fimailir..haha but it will take him tyme..let him know that you trust him
2007-04-01 17:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by cherrybloom24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not respect you, you need to move on...
2007-04-01 07:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by krafty1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever u do don't be pushy.guys hate that!just be yourself around him.
2007-04-01 15:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by katielovestony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋