HOW DO i GET MY TWO YEAR OLD TO NOT MAKE A FUSS WHEN I ASK HER DO SOMETHING?

Question

She is makeing a fuss if you have her do something she don't want to do. Hiting her head on the floor and telling everyone to leave her alone while she throws herself on the floor. or jumps up and down for a little while.

Answer 1

Well at 2 toddlers are dicsovering and testing their ability to be independant. They suddenly realise they DO have a choice, which is why it is important to at least listen to a toddler when they say they do or don't want something, or do something. They learn to stand up for themselves even this early and not be walked on and to express themselves.

But tantrums are the worse, and you don't want to encourage that or have her think that she doesn't have to help out.

Start by giving her some choices that she CAN make. Let her decide what she wants to wear during the day, what bed time story she gets, what soap she gets at bath time, which plate she wants, ect. These things will let her feel more in control and more independent so she won't feel the need to oppose you with other thing.

Also to make chores fun do them and try and make them a game. (matching socks, picking up toys that are a certain color) and understand at 2 she is a little to young to be doing a lot of things alone still.

As for the tantrums the best thing is to ignore her until she is done. My son used to hit his head and I was told to hold him until he stops so he doesn't hurt himself but this just proved to make him more upset until he was just screaming and didn't know why.
The best thing to do is either walk away fromher or put her in a time out room. Basically time outs are to help kids calm down, if you have an empty room (without toys or things she could break) place her in there and tell her she can stay in there until she has calmed down and can talk nicely.

If you don't have a room for this just walk away from her. The hardest thing to do is to really ignore her. try not to answer questions like "why?" until she has calmed down.

If you are really worried that she is hurting herself put her somewhere away from objects that she could hurt herself on. (this may be hard but an extra room again would probably work or somewhere for her to sit) and, the trick is to ignore her while watching her. Say nothing, don't make eye contact. Stand by her stiff, arms crossed, and look towards the celing and watch her out of the corner of your eye. If she tries something really crazy pick her up with a short NO and put her back.

Answer 2

Welcome to the terrible twos. Do NOT give attention to her tantrums. Tell her what you want her to do and when she throws a tantrum walk away. By walking away you are basically telling her that the behavior she is showing is inappropriate and won't get her anywhere. I too had a head banger, when that didn't work she tried throwing herself to the grouns so hard she would actually bounce, when that didn't get any attention she would bite herself until she bruised and lastly she attempted holding her breath. She finally gave up

Answer 3

Maybe if you make it fun for her to do something such as asking her clean up, start cleaning up look at her and say, "Hey lets clean up!" and do the Clean up song:
Clean up, clean up
everybody everywhere
clean up clean up everybody do your share.

Or you can sing alot of things to the "Row row row your boat" beat like put put put on your coat so we can go bye bye..things like that work at my daycare. I am a toddler teacher. You can also tell her that its not okay for her to throw herself on the floor like that and have a temper tantrum that she needs to use her words.

Answer 4

Have patience and stick to it. When she fusses, ignore it...yes, it's hard to do and it'll try your patience and emotions. But the minute you give it, you continue the problem. It's not easy, but it works. She's throwing fits because on some level it's working for her. Don't back off, be firm, but when she starts, ignore it and her....if you keep at it and hold your ground, she'll realize fits don't work for her. Be calm, don't yell, just don't let her fits change what you're asking her to do.
Good luck!!!

Answer 5

I let my kid have her little eposide. She can express herself that way if she wants. Usually at that age they forget easily and by the time they are done their tantrum, the chore goes undone. I set the egg timer. I say, when this rings, you better have 8 toys cleaned up! If she doesn't, then she gets extra chores... They funny thing is that they get mad at the timer, not at you! It's funny

Answer 6

Well after shes done throwin her little fit then make her do what you asked. Be patient she is testing you right now. And you have to be consitent with everything or she will run all over you and yes they do know how to do that at that age.

Answer 7

You can make it into a game, or you can try saying As soon as you ________, then we can ________. I do this a lot, especially when I know we're doing something they really want to do. Like: As soon as you clean up, you can take a bath.

Answer 8

work with her when she does what she's supposed to

ignore the tantrum she's doing it for attention

maybe she doesnt know how to do what your asking her so show her when she calms down
dont do it for her but with her

Answer 9

DEAR

ONE WORD
SPANK HER LITTLE BOTTOM REALLY WELL THAT WILL SEND A MASSAGE TO THE BRIAN HEY WAIT JUST A MINUTE MOMMY IS NOT PLAYING WITH ME SHE MEANS WHAT SHE IS SAYING AND I BETTER DO IT KNOW ARE I AM GOING TO GET IT ONCE AGAIN OK

JUST A FEW LITTLE POPS AND A STRONG VOICE I SAID NOW AND I MEAN NOW SO DO IT OK

TAKE CARE

Answer 10

Participate with whatever it is you want her to do, such as cleaning up her toys, getting her pj's ready, make it fun and she will want to "play" along!