Im so depressed over my family , i feel like comittting suicide?

Question

Im so depressed over my family , and my grandad comitting suicide has made me feel like doing it too.?
we were always a close family, i have like 50 cousins on my mums side and was always close. over the last year a big argument happened within the family and dont see most of my cousins anymore . the thing was the argument was nothing to do with my mum , my mum was just caught in the middle. then on january 12th i lost my cousin to muscular dystraphy , he was only 21. I lost my other cousin to mucular dystraphy in september last year too. 2 years ago my nan and grandad got divorced but we stayed close to my nan and grandad. then 6 monthes ago we went to visit him and he had moved out. then on 10th march we got a phone call to come and identify the body of my grandad, they had found him hung in a flat not far from were we live. He had comitted suicide. i was devastaed and miss him so much. To make things worse my bf has said we shud go on a break because too much is happening in my life right now. i need him but has said he cant be there for me. i honestly dont know what to do .

Answer 1

First of all, let us impress upon you the fact that you are important in the sight of God. He says, "You are precious to me ... and I love you" (Isaiah 43:4, TLB). The very reason Jesus Christ came to earth to offer Himself in sacrifice is so that we might have life in all its fullness, and it is His desire that we be set free from depression, fear, frustration, and hurt so that we might experience this abundant life.

The most important step you can take is to anchor your life solidly to Jesus Christ by committing your life without reserve to Him. God loves you, and He wants you to be part of His family. All you have to do is turn to Christ and ask Him to come into your heart as your Lord and Savior. Have you made that commitment to Christ? Turn to Him now—and then you will have a new desire to live a life with purpose.

Thoughts of taking one's own life do not come from God but from the evil one, Satan. Jesus said, "The thief's (Satan's) purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. My purpose is to give life in all its fullness" (John 10:10, TLB). We are warned in 1 Peter 5:8-10, "Be careful—watch out for attacks from Satan, your great enemy. He prowls around like a hungry, roaring lion, looking for some victim to tear apart. Stand firm when he attacks. Trust the Lord ... He personally will come and pick you up, and set you firmly in place, and make you stronger than ever" (TLB).

It is important that you determine to give all your problems to Jesus and "cast all your anxiety on him" (1 Peter 5:7). Refuse to listen to the devil, who is the "father of lies" (John 8:44), and make a total surrender of your life to Christ as Savior and Lord. Then center your attention upon His love for you and His wonderful plan for your life, and rest in the assurance that Jesus will "never leave you nor forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5b, NKJV).

Also, remember that God often uses other people to help us. Many who struggle with suicidal feelings benefit from talking with someone who can pray with them and help sort things out. We would urge you to counsel with a Gospel-preaching pastor in your area. You may also benefit from the advice of a professional Christian counselor. For referrals to individual Christian counselors near you, you may contact the following: Focus on the Family, telephone: [phone], or the Narramore Christian Foundation, telephone: [phone], or RAPHA, telephone: [phone]-HOPE. Arranging an appointment with a medical doctor would also help to determine whether feelings of depression and discouragement have a physical basis. Above all, keep your hope fixed in the One who says, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5b).

Answer 2

I had to answer this because I can completely relate to how you're feeling. You really need to step back and realize that #1, you don't really want to do this- you've reached out for help and that's a very good sign. And #2, so many of have screwed up dysfunctional families these days.

I know it can be overwhelming, but you need to find someone that you can trust that you can go and talk to. I'm guessing that you're british (from some of your word patterns)- is that right? Are you still in school? Is there an older woman somewhere (school guidance person, church, a friend's mum) that you can confide in? (It could also be a man, but you'd have to really have someone that you KNOW will not try to take advantage of your confusion and act inappropriately).

I lost my son almost 10 years ago. He was the dearest person I've ever known and I've had a very difficult time adjusting to life without him- he was 26 when he passed, and my very dearest friend in the world. BUT- I have to stop and realize that I was so blessed to have had him in my life for 26 years (as you were blessed to have your granddad), and to know that he's in a much better place now, and that I WILL see him again. That may sound hokey to you- don't know where you are with your spirituall beliefs, but I've had him channeled and he knew that I was seriously considering suicide. He told me that if I did take my own life, it would be a very long time before I could be with him again- that's just the way it works. So I need to find people on this earth who have less love than they need and give it to them, as I am to you.

Please hold on and you'll find that there are so many things to live for- the tears may be hiding them, but you'll see them in time. There are lots of other Grandmoms and granddads and cousins out there with noone to visit them, and make them feel loved. Share your love with them and it'll make all of your lives better.
Bless you.

Answer 3

Well first of all never commit suicide no matter how hard things get. If you commit suicide you are just showing everyone that you weren't strong enough to pull through. Plus it would not be at all anymore help to your family who has obviously gone through a lot in the last year. Try talking to your friends and family on how you are feeling. With your bf maybe it would be a good idea to take a break but not forever just ask him if you could still be friends and you could still talk to him about what you are going through. Believe it or not you will make it through your tough time. Always remember suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Best of luck

Answer 4

You have a lot on your plate right now.....no wonder you are depressed sweetie!! I think you should find someone to tallk to face to face, or tell your mum about how you are feeling. You did the right thing by opening up on here, now go to someone that can help you deal with the big issues that need to be addressed here. Maybe you will feel better talking with a school councilor or a trusted teacher or someone at church.... I dont know but you need to get this out more and ask someone near you to help you. I am sure there are people that care for you and will take care of you if you let them know how much pain you feel. I hope you feel better and let everyone know how things are!!

Answer 5

I think that you are considering suicide as a way out to all those problems that you are passing through. That's not mecessary the right way. You have to understand that not everyone who attempts to commite suicide succeds, and if you fail you may be crippled for life and that will make you feel even worse than you are feeling now. I don't know you age, but it sounds as you are a young person. If you are 18 or older, get out of your home. Get out at least partially, go to school, get a part time job (at least three days per week) that will gve you some pocket money as well as independence. Call an emergency line and find a way to get treatment. There are professionaly ttrained volunteers that assist people for very little money or for free. Treatment will help you to ease and see the options you have (believe me, there are options as long as we are alive and reasonably healthy). A therapist will also help you to fully understand that what you are passing through now is NOT your fault, but you are suffering because is your family, and the situations in our life, good and bad affect us. You need to learn some coping skills as well as open yourself to other possible options in your life. I wish you good and a fulfilling life in your future.

Answer 6

Life can really be hard sometimes. But even though it doesn't seem like it now, one day it will get better. Your current boyfriend is not for you. He can't handel what you're going through. You need friends and family. Suicide will not make fix your problems. How will your family feel when you leave them? as badly as you feel now that you've lost your grandfather? Stick it out, once you've hit bottom, the only way is back up.

Answer 7

Well first off you need a new bf. Now is the time you need him most and he bails on you? What a jerk!!!! And also don' t put your family thru any more. They have been thru a lot and you just should hang in there for them. Things will get better and if you need to see a doctor and get something for your depression. Good Luck, there are lots of nice guys who would love to be there for you. We are out there.

Answer 8

Please don't kill yourself! A lot of crap has happened in my family lately too, but I'm pushing through it! Don't forget that you're one of the people supporting others right now. You understand the pain that suicide brings, why would you want to have everyone go through that again? You are an important part of everyone's life right now, they need you to lean on! Forget your bf, he sounds like an ***!
I'm really sorry about everything that is going on with you. I can really relate because of some recent events w/ my life. Remember that God loves you! I love you too!

Answer 9

I'm really sorry about all that is happening in your life. Go talk to a doctor, it sounds like you need someone to talk to about all of this. You know how upset you were when your grandfather committed suicide? That's what you would do to your family and friends. Nothing is worth ending your life.

Answer 10

You need counseling, and you and the family, it would be a good idea. Do not let the break up between your boyfriend and you, make you think of committing suicide. That is a selfish act, one is only thinking of them-self. You need to be stronger then that, Life is not easy, but we have to deal with it. I do hope you go for help, read books on self esteem, work on your self. be their for your mom, and other family members who need you. Draw your strength on God, he will see you through this! May God Bless you!

Answer 11

Talk to somebody, as quickly as possible: a priest or pastor, your family doctor, or a close relative or friend. The best thing you can do is to share your feelings with someone who can share your burden and help you talk through it. Don't spend time thinking about your problems... get help now!