how do you get over being dumped and told this was their reason for breaking up with you?
2007-03-24 12:28:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we got together about a month or two after he got dumped after a nice month relationship with someone. however, we were together a year so i thought he was over it. but, he did say when we broke up that his heart 'belongs to someone else'-he admitted he had feelings for this ex again and had regularly been in touch (via phoning/texting etc) the past few months
2007-03-24 12:50:06 · update #1
Honey, all you can do is walk away from this guy. He has serious emotional baggage that you really don't deserve to be stuck with. Time will heal your hurt, and you'll find someone worthy of being with you. Keep your head up and smile! You never know who is falling in love with that smile! Good luck...
2007-03-24 13:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,any break up is hard. It is extremely hard to hear something such as this.Here are a few suggestions as what you can do,to begin to allow yourself to move on.
1.Cry.It is great to let it out,what you are holding in.Eventually,what is inside is going to come out and possibly in a way that isnt healthy.
2.Friends.Surround yourself with friends.Have a slumber party,reguardless as to your age.We all need our friends to be there for us from the youngest to the oldest.
3.Experience life.Do things you havent had the chance to do,but always wanted to.
4.Mourn.It is highly important that you allow yourself to mourn.This was someone who you loved,and you cannot push it out of the way as if it wasnt nothing.It will slip up when you least expect it.
5.No rebounds.Do not get into a committed relationship with someone yet.This will only set you up for the hurt from the realisation that this person was only a replacement for what you had.This will not only hurt you,but it can and will hurt the other person as well.Hanging out,and being friends is great.Everyone needs friends.It is important that you dont push yourself into a relationship tho.You need time to heal.
Break ups happen to us all.At the time it seems as if the hurt will never go away.However,time does heal the pain and eventually when the time is right and you are beyond that "rebound" period of time,you will find someone who is right for you.You will have plenty of heartbreaks throughout your lifetime,but once you find the one that you are going to marry.All those other relationships wont matter no more.Dont rush yourself to heal tho,it is a time consuming process.Dont stop your life and wait,life is too short!Good luck hun,and have a good day.I am sorry you had to go through this.
2007-03-24 19:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard to be dumped by someone you love, I know I've been there.
But - at least he was honest, and didn't string you along.
When anyone enters a relationship, it's with the knowledge that either one of you could break it off at some time in the future.
There are no guarantees in life or love.
It sounds hard, but you will get over this. Everyone does.
Be strong and look ahead.
2007-03-24 19:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by jet-set 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you could do is to put your life on hold, thinking that you will continue living after you get over this person. Don't let your confidence unravel because of this, perhaps one of you changed while you were dating, and they just didn't think you were compatible anymore. That is okay. Nothing is wrong with you. Maybe you could try making a list of all of the things you want to do for yourself, keep yourself motivated to explore, be adventurous, and to become more confident. If you love yourself, it doesn't matter if someone else doesn't.
2007-03-24 19:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by freelikesilk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pack up all the mementos in a big box. Seal it shut, and stick it way in the back of your closet.
If you had a favorite scent, get rid of it. Throw out the favorite candle. Pitch the favorite CD. Bang it up with a hammer and trash the pieces.
Then go get your hair cut. Buy a new pair of shoes. Spend some time in your favorite candle store. Invite some friends over to watch movies.
Put your pride in your back bone, walk with your head high and smile.
It will get better.
2007-03-24 19:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well they obviously werent for you, so move on, show them that you're worth much more than that. To me, that sounds like a lame excuse anyway. As they say, there's plenty more fish in the sea. Plus everyone has a miss or mr right. Yuo just havent found yours yet, and remember, you dont necessarily have to look, they will find you.
2007-03-24 19:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cheeky girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't feel too bad love is just a word or a state of mind start feeling bad when a doctor tells you he/she can't save you anymore. get a new woman as quick as possible it helps numb the pain.
2007-03-24 20:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by richiesown 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's one of the standard lines. More honest than most. How would you like to be strung along with the BS "We both need space to grow"? A lot worse than the honesty of "I don't love you anymore".
2007-03-24 19:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him/her that you also wanted to do the same but didn't want to take the first initiative. Now that you have done it good luck and good bye! Don't contact me again whenever you need any help.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-24 19:41:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about the scum who did that to you and just move on with your life and you will find someone else better if you seek revenge then you feel bad after a while
2007-03-24 19:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by bell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋