I met this really sweet guy well I thought he was sweet. He charmed me with how gorgoeous I was and couldn't understand why I was still single. To make a long story short we slept together on the 2nd date I didn't want it to happen so quick cause i am not like that. He was still in contact with me but the texts were fewer and suddenly stopped all contact. I lost it on a message and even tried calling which I know was bad and I shouldnt have but it knocked my confidence for six. Needless to say have heard nothing since. He spokes a lot of pot as well, one joint after another not sure if that effects anything either but either way have heard nothing since or maybe he hasnt had the balls to contact me cause my message was very blunt. Am annoyed cause I actually really liked him and felt for good guy crap.
2007-03-24 12:25:35 · 17 answers · asked by Chickflick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont hook up with guys that smoke pot... what do you expect he probably doesnt remember his name half the time lol... i dont think all guys would lose respect for you only the jerks...he was obviously only looking for sex next time make sure hes really feeling you...
2007-03-24 12:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been conquered.
A goal that has been achieved and a mark on the bed post.
The pursuit was too short and unchallenging, so he moved on.
He did not have any respect for you in the first place, he is a player, and you got played.
You say you "didn't want it to happen so quick", then why did it?
learn from your experience and know that the next "really sweet" guy that smokes "joint after joint" of pot may have only one thing in mind when he shows interest in you.
Find a nice guy that you biuld a huge amount of trust with, and shows you respect no matter what and you will have much better results.
2007-03-24 12:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mr R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, with the whole pot thing, he could have been kinda...dazed. As in, he didn't know what exactly he was doing or what he did. And it depends on the guy whether or not they lose respect. Some are more hungry for that kinda thing and some aren't. So, just make sure you know the guy first and try to avoid 2nd date sex. Then, it would show that you're kinda just open to anyone. Sorry if that sounded rude, but I hope this helps.
2007-03-24 12:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by animegirl769z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoking (or spoking) pot does not affect somoene's ability to pick up the phone and call or text you.
Yes, some guys can lose respect for you if you have sex too early. Some guys have no respect for you in the first place and just want to get sex from you and will tell you anything to get it and once they do, they're gone. This guy sounds like the second. He sweet-talked you and got you into bed and then dumped you when he got what he wanted.
2007-03-24 12:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's by no skill stable. oftentimes adult men do lose appreciate for a girl who sleeps with him on the 1st date. It makes him think of and sweetness approximately how many different adult men has she performed that with. regardless of in case you tell him you have by no skill performed that till now he will not have faith it. there is an risk he nevertheless likes you yet beware and don't replace right into a booty call. Take issues sluggish and are not getting your hopes as much as lots. If he grew to become into any kind of gentleman he does not have performed that that night so i does not think of to incredibly of him. purely act customary, be superb yet not worry-free. do not enable him do some thing like that returned and be sure he has thoughts for you till now the rest would desire to ensue.
2016-11-23 13:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by tollefson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only charmed you to get in your pants and once he found it was going to be difficult he just gave up. He wasnt looking for anything long term, and it would have ended up with him leaving even if you had slept with him. Yes they lose respect, youre not girlfriend material if you put out that quick. Read cosmo :P Just move on girl, theres guys who dont just want that.
2007-03-24 12:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just wanted you sexually. After he got what he wanted he left. This is what usually happens if you sleep with a guy before knowing him for at least 3 months. Sex is what they want you for when they first see you and start talking to you..if you give it to them early then what need do they have to stay with you?? Thats their mindset. Thats why u should keep your legs closed until you guys are MUTUALLY in love with each other. Then you dont have to worry about that and you wont feel cheap and used afterwards
2007-03-24 12:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy*Black*Chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah.. sorry you did fall for the "good guy" its an act.. he isnt who you thought.. that is a game men play and he might not even know he is playing it... see guys try hard to get with the girl they want.. do whatever and say what you want to hear.. they realy dont do this to be mean.. think of it more as nature and not a act to sleep with you.. they might not even want to sleep with you they just want to be with you period.. anyways to make a long story short.. guys like him want what they can not have.. he realy could have thought he wanted you for ever and ever.. but when he got you that lust of attraction slowly disapeared.. and he doesnt have the guts to tell you and he probly doesnt know himself why he doesnt want you either.. and he probly has this problem b4. with other women and he may ask himself why he doesnt like women after he sleeps with them.. so if you real do like a guy see how long you can be without sleeping with him.. thats the best way and if he ever says "if you dont sleep with me im going to find a girl that will" well let him.. cause all he wants is sex to begin with.. a true "nice guy" wont ever say those words or words like that there of.
also, he could just be a pig and only wanted you for sex to begin with. thats always a problem with guys too..
sorry but better next time.. if you want to get him back.. leave him alone.. talk to him if he talks to you of course but keep it simple and short if you can.. show its not a big thing to you.. even thow we know it was.. let me know how it goes..
and remember.. guys want what they cant have. so tease and take away! that is your best bate to fish men in.
2007-03-24 12:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u answered your own question. If u want a guy 2 respect you, you have to first respect yourself. Drop him and get on with your life and don't keep making the same mistakes.
2007-03-24 12:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sweety he just wanted to get in your vag. Sorry to say that, that is why you become a ****** with men. Test em out on how badly they want you. I leanred my lessons. N guess what of all the dates I was in they all wanted to screw me. *** it right so I kicked the fukers to the curb. Sweety dont believe every piece of sht of word that comes out of a guys mouth, beieve me if they see you are a sweet naive he is betting in his head I can get this girl to sleep within a few days because she is so insecure..be carefull...take care..now next stepp get tested..
2007-03-24 12:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by thatswhoIam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋