I just have this problem with controlling my children's every move.
2007-03-24 12:23:16 · 8 answers · asked by kykarraliv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am the real Kykarraliv. My 16 yr old daughter posted this posing as me. To answer this question.............
Because I care about my children and want to set reasonable limits. When a child comes home drunk, stoned, etc their ability to have a lot of their previous freedoms come crashing down. Restrictions are set into place. No going out, no associating with the people that provided those substances. As time passes and the seriousness of the situation sets in the restrictions are gradually lifted. I will always require my children to do their chores, school work, talk respectfully, be honest, be sober, let me know who they are with and what they are doing when they want to go out. I will not allow a 16 yr old to set their own curfews. A reasonable curfew for a 16 yr old in our house is in by 12:00 am on a week-end night unless something specific and special is planned then curfew can be negotiated. When coming off restrictions for grievious errors in judgement and breaking of trusts priveledges are given back in smaller steps. After coming off grounding and restrictions for coming home stoned, drunk at 3:00 am while not letting anyone know where you were, for a while curfew is 10:00pm on week nights with a planned activity and 12:00 am with no exceptions for special events. Until the teen-ager proves able to be trusted with exceptions again. If this is a "controlling" parent , then I am controlling and will continue to be. So a short answer to the question as to why I am so controlling...because I love and care about my children.
2007-03-25 23:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by the real kykarraliv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controlling your childrens every move is a bad thing because your children will soon get to the point that they can't do anything without you hovering them. And they will feel the same way when they grow up, they'll think they can't do anything. And that puts their self-confidence down.
2007-03-24 19:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old your children are, but if they're in their late teens or older you must let them grow up and learn to be adults. The saying, "If you love something, set it free!" applies here. I have a friend who is like you and she has four "children" between 35 and 43 years old that don't have enough self-esteem to live their lives. They're so dependent on her that they can't hold jobs, have poor marriages or are not married at all. Start practicing "tough love" now.
2007-03-24 19:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by wha? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help, it is good that you realize that you have a problem, now you need to do something about it, if not you are going to drive everyone away from you. So work on your self, or go for counseling, it is never too late!
2007-03-24 19:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can tell us why your so controlling? Did your parents control you?
2007-03-25 11:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest its because you care but it you really do that then believe me they are going to get worse if been there im only 18 years old let him know you care but dont be so controlling!Good Luck!
2007-03-24 19:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by dennis b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are an overprotective mom.
2007-03-24 19:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a classic dumbazz
2007-03-24 19:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋