we were always a close family, i have like 50 cousins on my mums side and was always close. over the last year a big argument happened within the family and dont see most of my cousins anymore . the thing was the argument was nothing to do with my mum , my mum was just caught in the middle. then on january 12th i lost my cousin to muscular dystraphy , he was only 21. I lost my other cousin to mucular dystraphy in september last year too. 2 years ago my nan and grandad got divorced but we stayed close to my nan and grandad. then 6 monthes ago we went to visit him and he had moved out. then on 10th march we got a phone call to come and identify the body of my grandad, they had found him hung in a flat not far from were we live. He had comitted suicide. i was devastaed and miss him so much. To make things worse my bf has said we shud go on a break because too much is happening in my life right now. i need him but has said he cant be there for me. i honestly dont know what to do .
2007-03-24 12:20:36 · 5 answers · asked by beckytoner07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know this situation is really difficult but killing yourself isn't the answer even though it feels like it. It sounds like you have been through a lot lately. Just keep moving forward and live day to day. When you've hit rock bottom the only way is to go up. Right. Don't give up and stay strong. As for your bf. Tell him to screw off. He doesn't deserve you if he is willing to abandon you in your time of need. You don't need him and there is someone out there that needs you. I'm sure you mean so much to so many people. Just keep chugging along. Things will get better I promise. You don't want to do something to hurt your mum she has been through a lot it sounds like to. Hang in there. Don't worry. Try taking up yoga or meditating this always helps me when I just need a breather. You know what always helps me is shopping. Buying a new outfit that I really look good in is just what the doctor ordered. Good Luck and I hope everything works out for the best.
2007-03-24 12:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Shea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about everything that you are going through. You should always remember that what does not kill you will only make you stronger. Its gonna be hard to move on, but you can do it. Just keep GOD in your heart and you will over come all of your hard ships. Every thing happens for a reason so maybe its a good thing that your bf wants to call it quits. He just showed you his true colors. If he dosent have your back through hard times...He's not worth your time. God bless and be strong.
2007-03-24 12:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by blackbuttafly12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i ma really so sorry foru. but u must truly be the strongest person ever if u could tolerate even this much and ur bf is an ideot. it is good that you broke up now not whn u already have a family
2007-03-24 13:06:58 · answer #3 · answered by howsitgoingeh2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to answer this because of the fact i will thoroughly relate to the type you're feeling. you quite need to step back and understand that #one million, you do not probably want to try this- you have reached out for help and that's an particularly stable sign. And #2, such a number of of have screwed up dysfunctional families presently. i understand that's overwhelming, yet you will desire to locate somebody which you would be able to have faith which you would be able to pass and refer to. i'm guessing which you're british (from a number of your observe kinds)- is that desirable? Are you nevertheless in college? Is there an older woman someplace (college preparation individual, church, a chum's mum) which you would be able to communicate in self assurance to? (it may additionally be a guy, yet you will would desire to truly have somebody which you recognize won't attempt to take great factor approximately your confusion and act inappropriately). I lost my son very very nearly 10 years in the past. He grew to become into the dearest individual i've got ever nicely-known and that i've got had an particularly confusing time adjusting to life devoid of him- he grew to become into 26 whilst he surpassed, and my very dearest buddy in the international. yet- I would desire to quit and understand that i grew to become into so blessed to have had him in my life for 26 years (as you have been blessed to have your granddad), and to appreciate that he's in a lots extra advantageous place now, and that i visit make certain him returned. that would sound hokey to you- do not understand the place you're with your spirituall ideals, yet i've got had him channeled and he knew that i grew to become into heavily pondering suicide. He informed me that if I did take my own life, it may be an particularly long term till now i'd desire to be with him returned- that's purely the way it works. So i'd desire to locate human beings in this earth who've much less love than they want and supply it to them, as i'm to you. Please carry on and you will locate that there are such a number of issues to stay for- the tears may well be hiding them, yet you will see them in time. there are various different Grandmoms and granddads and cousins available with noone to pass to them, and lead them to sense enjoyed. share your love with them and it will make all your lives extra advantageous. Bless you.
2016-11-23 13:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by gallogly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it ...
if you do it you can be with your granddad
2007-03-24 12:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by bone_daddys_waitress 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋