2007-03-24 12:18:08 · 14 answers · asked by cabincatred 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Nope. You are the judge, jury and excecutioner.
2007-03-24 12:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, if they vreak the rules then they suffer the consequences. People don't get to decide on the consequences in a court of law. Children should be taught that when they do wrong they get punished.
2007-03-24 12:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by legend4real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you set the consequences for misbehavior BEFORE it happens. Just stick with it when the time comes to implement it. This is how I deal with things with my 12 year old daughter. It works well, if she has agreed beforehand that misbehavior of certain "degrees" will result in certain punishments then she also knows if we have to use them, she can't call them unfair. They need to always know that there are consequences for their actions and for those consequences to be clear, weather it's them agreeing or just being told what they will be.
2007-03-24 12:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. That's like letting the drunk driver decide if he needs to loose his license or not. Children need limits and clear consequences and ADULTS need to provide those based on age, maturity and the severity of the infraction.
2007-03-24 14:30:18 · answer #4 · answered by Devaneymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. sometimes this can work..
but you still need to make sure the consequence matches the rule or negative behaviour you are trying to correct. It cant be totally up to them of course.
But it help teach them responsibility
2007-03-24 12:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by lisa_2375146 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no they dont want consequences they will pick something worthless for you to take away or some fun punishment like they will pick walk the dog and play with the dog so that is pretty much asking them what they want to do
2007-03-24 12:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by ltdsuperstar2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-03-25 13:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Zack H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but make sure they are consequences where you are in a win-win situation. ie: would you prefer to take your time out on the stairs or in your room? (toddlers). will you pay me back for breaking that CD/DVD/toy with this week's or next week's allowance? (grade school). would you rather wash and clean the car on saturday morning or afternoon? (teens who abused their privileges). choices make them mad at their foolish choices and the consequence makes them think for next time...not mad at you and see you as the "dog".
2007-03-24 12:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by just curious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It worked with our kids when we tried that out. We made the options, they made the decision. And believe me, each option was applicable to the violation and within reason. It was hard for them to make the choice but they did it.
2007-03-24 12:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by OP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No absoultely not because they could enjoy a certain punishment and then they will just get in trouble on purpose!!
2007-03-24 13:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Alex C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If they break the law, they wouldn't be consulted, so teach them about the real world now.
2007-03-24 12:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by ADM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋