I dont know what to do? My ex girlfriend and I remained friends after we broke up. Today she tells me that she does not ever want to talk to me ever again, and that i should stay out of her life. Her cousin told her that I was parked across the street from her house and was stalking her. The problem is that I did not do that.. in fact that is extremly creepy. I am not that type of person and would never do that. I tried to explain this to her and she wont even give me a chance to explain myself. She blocked me on AIM and no matter what i do she wont listen. her family and I are very close and I am close with her cousin.. i dont understand why he would tell her that. It is definetly possible that he saw a car that is similar to mine, but it was definelty not me. I dont really need a friend who wont let me even explain my side, but it just hurts because I thought we were close and she wont give me the time of day. What should i do?
2007-03-24 12:08:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i sent her txt messages and even contacted her cousin.. I just dont understand.. if she cared about me she would at least listen to my side no?
2007-03-24 12:08:55 · update #1
she wants attention. she want to see how you will react. Tell her you are moving to Pokara, Nepal in April to become a Buddist monk.
2007-03-24 12:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tony D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sucks when someone missunderstands something, and that something happens to give you a bad reputation. but the fact that kept trying to talk to her, most probably made her think that you did stalk her. why? because those are two traits that go with the same personality. explanation: she once said that she didnt want to be your girlfriend anymore, and she hears that you are stalking her, from a family member, she'll think it's most likely to be true. and when you try to explain to her that it isnt true and she doesnt want to hear you the first time, and you keep insisting, which is basically just like when you kept looking for her (stalking her) in her mind if you werent guilty you probably wouldnt give a damn that there were accusations of stalking you, because they're not true. this has been really hard to explain. but i hope you get it. just stop trying to explain yourself to her and forget about her i dont think she'd make a good friend. move on with your life and leave her behind. good luck! you can contact me if you have any questions.
2007-03-24 19:31:37 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to let go at this point and give it some time. The more you try to force the issue that it wasn't you - the more you look like a stalker. Just let some time go by and then text her that you would like to talk with her when she feels up to it. You don't deserve this treatment, but she is only reacting to other people - in time she will see the truth!
2007-03-24 19:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself I would let lay and if it is met to be she will come back to u.she will come to her sense about the whole thing.Maybe she is having hard dealing with the lost of her lover which is u knowing that she had broken it off.maybe she has someone new in her life and that is why she is saying that.family is like that sometimes because they cant handle that u and her arent going out anymore so there for they need a break.let go.if she really cared for you she wouldnt leave u in the dark.some people are like that.
2007-03-24 19:17:30 · answer #4 · answered by abby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try just tellin her ur side of the story in a note and slip in into her locker or sumwhere where she'll see it. dont put any information about u on the front just leave the outside blank and she will open it to see wut it is. dont start the note with an apology or anything, just get rite to the point and tell her ur side of the story. if she still wont listen then too bad for her.
2007-03-24 19:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by boohoo cry me a river 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. Continuing to contact her after she said not to will be perceived as being creepy. Back off and be ready to forgive her if she decides to contact you in the future. Anyone can make a mistake.
2007-03-24 19:24:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sandra M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just let it go for now. if she really does care about you then she will come around. but for the best of you both you need space right now. the cousin you don't need as a friend if he/she is trying to ruin your friendship even more. just relax about it. it will work out in the end.
2007-03-24 19:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like you invested far to much to be just friends, now you are starting to sound as if you are guilty, if she don't believe you, so what as long as you know the truth,it sounds as though you were getting a little to close and she is letting you know to back it up, in a blunt i don't care way!until it calms down you need to try to focus on other things and pray on it and let it count as a lesson .....!?
2007-03-24 19:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by wisper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like she may of met someone else and they might be saying to her not to have any acontact with you,,,maybe they feel insecure about you with you being a family friend...i dont understand otherwise what reason she has to shut you out so coldly....as a woman that would be the reason why i would allof a sudden shut someone out...stinks ..sorry from a women who wouldnt do anything like that...you will meet someone else and then you one day will see her and not even want to talk to her
2007-03-24 19:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by michellefluff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, who cares? She is your EX-girlfriend. And if she was so quick to believe that you could do that, why are you pursuing a friendship with her?
2007-03-24 19:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋