I get really tired of people making comments about how sad it must be that my child is an only child. It's not like I planned to have only one child, but that is how the good Lord planned it. I haven't been on birth control since he was two, and he is now 14. My husband and I haven't done anything medically to have more, just think if it was meant to be it would be. I just feel lucky I had one at all. How would you respond to people's comments like "why only one?" and "how sad for your child that he doesn't have a brother/sister". I don't really think it is any of their business but feel I should respond. Any suggestions? Thanks!
2007-03-24 11:59:13 · 12 answers · asked by itsjustfoolishness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell them that "God planned it for me and this is the way it is". I never planned to have 4, but the Lord did and I just accepted it and did the best job I could do to raise them.
Why should you have to respond any other way?!! It really is no one else's business why you only have one child. Why go into details about the reason?
I am thankful that you were given to opportunity to raise a child. Just think, some women are never given the opportunity.
2007-03-24 12:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by Linda L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since I am an only child, I can remember my parents being questioned like this and they would respond that I was an extra special child and they were blessed to have me.
If someone caught my Mom during a stressful moment she would say something like "I don't believe that is a question for public discussion, and I prefer not to answer it."
I think that you can nicely say that you do not believe that it is any of anyone else's business besides your husband and yourself.
I don't know where boundaries have gone, these are the same people that think it is okay to put their hands on pregnant women's stomachs. Ick.
Best of luck to you and your family, I survived without brothers and sisters, had lots of friends and cousins (still do) and your son can have a wonderful life also.
2007-03-24 12:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I only have one child and I do want another one also. We are just waiting for the financial stuff to come together. i know how you feel I get people saying all the time "your daughter is missing out on so much". I was an only child and I don't really feel like I missed out. There are Pro's and Con's to every family situation. I would just come back with a simple "every family is a different size and this is just right for us right now."
2007-03-24 13:04:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cheyenne 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have only 1 child and he is 16. He may not have any brothers or sisters, but he has many many friends!! I am so happy that I only had one child with the way the world is today. I pity the children coming in to this world now. As for the people who ask the questions.......it is none of their business. I would just tell them how it is. Tell them the truth....see their faces drop when they realize they just made an *** out of themselves. Not everyone chooses to have only child.....but we are BLESSED with one child at least.
2007-03-24 12:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Krissy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being an only child. An only child gets all of your attention, is both the oldest and the youngest.
Unless you live way out in the middle of nowhere he will establish friendships.
When I was growing up my best friend was an only child, he was like a brother to both my brother and I and to this day I still consider him family.
2007-03-24 12:08:45 · answer #5 · answered by Rustb 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't think before they speak, I am in the same boat.. I want another one bad and my son is now 5, I planed to have them no more than 2 years apart.. but it is not our planning like you said it is god's.. when someone ask I would just say that is what God chose for us! and leave it at that..
2007-03-28 10:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by littlemama882003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answered your own question. It's none of their business! However if you feel the strong urge to reply to either comment tell them "does my child seem lonely?" or your own response "the Lord gave us our blessing and you will never hear us complain". Good Luck
2007-03-24 12:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by fishincrzymama 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To the answer of why only one...say "that is personal"
To the comment on how sad...etc...say "I wouldnt lose any sleep over it, he doesnt".
2007-03-24 20:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell them kids cost money, lots and lots of money and I would love to have more kids but alas my money tree died. Then I'd ask them if they have any money they can donate to my cause.
2007-03-24 12:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no adequate response to the ignorant people that make those type of remarks just try to overlook their ignorance and be proud of what you have.
2007-03-24 12:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by ribuckeye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋