my friend has joined a gang called "the bloods" How should I tell him than he has ruined his life without puting mines at risk of beeing attaked by a gang member? Or should I just call the cops?( If you answer please remmember that im serious and that im dealing with some dangerous people
2007-03-24 11:50:25 · 10 answers · asked by vivalacarlos 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
It would be nice to just find new friends but that is not going to solve your problem.
Do you feel like this guy is a good friend, you can trust that HE will not hurt you? Not his gang that is seperate issue.
If you maybe present questions to him, things you have heard about gangs and ask him if he is worried about it and how does he know or feel about those issues. Let him think he is teaching you for a while.... don't get drawn in, but do not give up.
Your friend is going to make a choice between you and his new friends. Normally people who join a gang have a motive you will not understand. It may not even be vaild. (I.e. feels like an outsider and now belongs, poor and thinks his new friends will bring him riches, fear of the gang hurting him if he does not join or just for plain thrills)
I agree with the majority of the post that you will have to keep your distance but do not stay away completely. If your friend stays with this gang, he may realize later that he does not like it so much and need you to help him dig away out.
Calling the police NOW... is not a good thing because he has done nothing illegal and will turn that around on you. Do not give your self false expectations that you can save him by calling the police. If the police were super humans and could grant miracles, there would be no gang for him to join. After he commits a crime, then call the police and ask not to have your name given first. Maybe serving a little jail time can be a good thing in this case. It will get him off the street and in a cell. This might be a waking reality for him.
I think it depends on age too. young teens join gangs because they are missing something at home.... maybe the parents need to be aware of this action.
Older individuals watch movies, listen to the news, read the paper and know the truths behind the scenes. Just keep talking to your friend and asking questions in case he ever wants help.
Sorry this was not better info. :(
2007-03-24 15:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need a father type that has been there and done that with the bloods trying to talk him out of it.
I have not met him but I would bet that he either has no father in his life or a highly abusive father. He joined th gang to have a collective father that will fill the void in his life.
You can ask him to nail down when the gang is not good for him. e.g. Is it bad for him when he gets his first felony conviction?
After he says that the only thing you can do is to let him hit rock bottom like an alcoholic and then have him work to break the gang habit.
2007-03-24 19:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by eric l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has just committed suicide, if not actually, then economically.....No one will hire him if he gets a record as being a gang member. You need to stay away from him and find new friends or you will be put on the spot to either join or get your butt kicked.
2007-03-24 18:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by Armed Civilian 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move to a safer neighborhood and let your friend figure it out himself. I don't mess with gang bangers unless it's through a rifle scope. That's all punk gang bangers are good for; target practice.
2007-03-24 18:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not against the law to join a gang. Your friend made a big mistake. Suggest you keep your distance and find another friend.
2007-03-24 19:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by beez 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't control your friends. They have to make the decision for themselves. Move on with your life and if your are able to do that while being a friend, do so. Otherwise, make a new friend. You don't have to explain yourself.
2007-03-24 21:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by spag 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A cop isn't going to be able to help you unless you tell your friend he is crazy and then he tells all his friends that you said he is crazy and they all come by your house to do a drive by cause they are all crazy!
Basically - don't even talk to him anymore!
2007-03-24 19:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Mary ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too late for him. Either he was forced to join or he was looking for acceptance. He will know when is time to get out, meanwhile, I would suggest to stay clear of him
2007-03-24 18:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by R C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he felt it necessary to affiliate himself with a bunch of cowards and argue any reason he gives. if that doesn't work the just pitty the poor guy.
2007-03-24 20:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Paul C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all your friend has to help himself, and I would strongly suggest that you find new friends, that one is long gone,,good luck..????
2007-03-24 19:39:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋