its our first baby and i am a little unprepared for this to happen now but i cant give her/him up. please help.
2007-03-24 11:49:00 · 25 answers · asked by brandi_pamplin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Gently tell him, and if he freaks out, do not start yelling, no matter what. That will only upset him more. If you remain calm, eventually he won't flip out as well.
If he breaks up with you, he is a dumb***.
If he stays with you, well that's good. But he's going to feel like his life was delayed or put to a stop because the only priority will be the baby. Along the road he's probably going to blame you, as his dreams will be put on hold. You may too blame yourself.
Make sure that money isn't a problem. It's good that he's 22 though, that age is perhaps more mature than if he were a teenager. Hopefully his job is well.
I wish you only the greatest of luck, and hope that everything works out well.
REMEMBER TO NOT START YELLING, EVEN IF HE STARTS TOO!
2007-03-24 11:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In most occasions females will be unprepared for a baby but you'll soon get over that feeling. Just tell your boyfriend that your pregnant and if he's working or not Im sure he'll find his best to get money to take care of you and your baby. The good news is that your baby isn't born yet, so that will give you two time to figure out how to get money to buy baby products.
2007-03-24 19:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.
Well, if you weren't prepared for this, you shouldn't have gone and have sex with him if you knew that you were gonna get pregnant. And you can just wait for the moment to tell him that your pregnant, either way he has to pay child support for the baby. (Or your parents)
When you have the baby, and you don't know if you can handle it, then you should probably give him/her adoption or you can do what my mom did. She had me when she was your age, and she couldn't take care of me, and my grandparents are raising me right now. Your probably thinking "Oh what do I know", but that's the whole reason of having a baby outside of marriage,and you have to go through all these crap my mom and my grandparents had to go through, and they're still doing it today and it gets very stressful sometimes. And my dad is in jail right now since I was a baby. And he won't get out for a long time now still. And you don't want your child to not know where your dad is if he/she doesn't know anything about or never seen him or something like that.
Well I hope my answer helped you out.
Good Luck!
2007-03-24 19:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by TempoBronze124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i assume he knew it could be possible for u to get pregnant, because obviosly u didnt use birth control . So ask him out on a date, or to dinner, and either tell him , or buy him a cute " your gonna be a daddy" card and a cigar. However u tell him, tell him quick...this decision should be a mutual one, and every day that passes without him knowing, could be 1 day less, that u 2 can start planning. Best of luck
2007-03-24 19:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by combodeal2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant before marriage and thought it was the worst thing that could ever happen. My dilema was telling my father. My daughter is now 24 years old and I thank God for her EVERYDAY! She has brought so much joy and pleasure into my life. I can't imagine not having her. In fact, I am visiting her right now. We are so close! Tell your boyfriend and be happy! God has given you this gift for a reason.
2007-03-24 18:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by kaycee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, you must be honest and just tell him that you are pregnant. If you dont tell him hes going to find out anyways and be mad that you hadnt told him, he may even jump to conclusions such as that its not his and that you've cheated on him and thats why you didn't tell him. He may be pleased your pregnant and be happy that you now have a child. I suggest you be open and honest thats what makes a successful relationship after all
2007-03-24 18:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by E.S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do what is right for the baby over what you think is right for you and your boyfriend. You play, you pay. Tell him and be good parents, or give your child up so they have a good chance. Do the right thing!! This child did not ask to be born, so you owe it to him to do the best thing. Good luck and love your baby!!!
2007-03-24 18:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should do is sit him down and tell him that you need to talk to him. Then you should just tell him straight up. Let him know how you feel about this and what your ideas are. Then ask him what he feels about this and ask him if he has any ideas. This is a huge thing for anyone who is finding out that they are withchild.
2007-03-24 20:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Britney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this age there is no easy way to tell something like this. IF he really cares about you and is a real man he will take care of his responsibility.
2007-03-24 18:52:59 · answer #9 · answered by J TEZZY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just tell him...eventually he is going to find out you know...by your growing belly~ there is help out there if you are not financially stable right now...there is a lt of government agancies who will find you a good job and skills and money for now and insurance for now to take care of you and of course your boyfriend is now going to have to help out also. if he really cares for you and loves you then he will be there with u thru thick and thru thin. just go and Tell him~
2007-03-24 20:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋