I live about 20 min from home & the other day I was babysitting my 6 year old cousin & I was talking to my mom who mentioned she & my grandfather were going to dinner because he just returned home from a long vacation. My cousin & I were already going to go out to dinner so I suggested that we all meet. It was only 2 in the afternoon so it wasn't too late or anything but she got all huffy & said that my grandfather would be disappointed, he really likes the Happy Hour crowd at this restaurant/bar. I said we would come to them & I am sure that he would like to see his grandkids. She got all mad & said that she hasn't been to Happy Hour in weeks & that they had plans & she couldn't drop everything just for me. She kept saying that he really wanted to go (even though those words never came out of his mouth, especially because she refused to ask him if he wanted to meet us) & that she needs to have a life too. I felt so hurt & told her but she sees no wrong.Am I crazy?How would your react?
2007-03-24 11:38:28 · 5 answers · asked by ________________________________ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
from how upset she was getting it sounds like she wasnt having dinner with your grandpa but meeting someone else that she didnt want you to know about. it sounds kind of fishy, especially since you said you could meet them when and where ever they were going. and what grandpa doesnt want to see his grandkids? i know mine would be happy to have dinner with us. i would be upset too. try to ask her in a non confrontational way what was up. give her the benefit of the doubt, maybe she was having a bad day but then again maybe she was up to something.
2007-03-24 11:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not crazy. You don't mention dad so I'll presume he's out of the picture. Simply said it sounds like mom just wanted to go out and have a bit of fun ...alone. Period.
Don't be offended, either.
2007-03-24 18:50:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're overreacting. you tried to crash her plans with your granddad. they were her plans with him. sounds like she wanted the time with him to herself for some reason. she doesn't owe you an explanation. if you want the four of you to get together, set it up.
mom overreacted too. which is why i think she wanted it just the 2 of them. she could have said let's do that another time to your suggestion and been more gentle with your feelings, but she didn't. let it go. take the high road. good luck.
2007-03-24 23:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by rainyday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a whole lot like she wanted to go drinking and a six year old would have spoiled the fun.
2007-03-24 18:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had other plans in mind not dinner. Why was your grandfather on VACATION by himself?
2007-03-25 11:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by shawn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋