Hello. I've been with my current boyfriend for nearly 2 and half years. I am 19 but not in rush to get married what so ever. However, I did wonder at how long a woman would wait for her partner to propose to them in a relationship, before moving on/assessing where it is going?
2-3 years maybe?
4-5? (now he really should be thinking about it at least!)
..or more?
2007-03-24 11:34:37 · 47 answers · asked by Kirsty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am not referring to myself personally in any way. I just wanted to know what others would do in the scenario. Thanks
2007-03-24 11:52:51 · update #1
Let him move at his own pace. If your not happy with his pace then move on.
2007-03-24 11:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by rocktillyourheartscontent 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think people really need to start to read questions instead of jump into answers like they are. I am sorry for the stupid feedback you are getting...it just isn't right...
For some personal information, I was with an ex for four years. We were fine and talking about marriage and one day he decided that he "never wanted to get married". I tried to deal with it, then I tried to change him, then I sat him down to make sure he really felt that way, and I left him.
I am now with someone for going on three years, and this relationship is totally different. He is in grad school about an hour and a half away and we decided to wait until he is finished with that and then we will get married....So I will be with him about four to five years until we are married.
I know this is not the case for everyone.....but the advice I would give is that if you start to get a bad vibe, go with your gut feelings. My gut feelings started with my ex about two years into the relationship, but it took me another two years until it all surfaced. I feel like I wasted two years, but I also think that if I didnt just stick it out with him and find out, then the timing would not have been right to meet my sweetie now.
Sometimes you have to wait due to certain circumstances...but remember also, that there never seems to be the "right" time or the "right" amount of money, but whenever you decide to get married, it will all seem to work out.
I hope this helps, or at least has given you some ideas to the answer to your question. I really don't think there is a time limit, but your feelings should guide you with all of that....
2007-03-24 13:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that 19 is too young to get married, but my parents got married when they were 18 and they are still married. They celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary a couple of years ago and they are happy. It depends on the person and what is right for them. I'm not sure how long you should wait for a proposal, but at 19 there is lots of time to wait for one. I have been with my bf for 6 years now and there is still no proposal from him, and to be honest I am wondering if there ever will be. But at 19 don't worry hun, enjoy being with him.
2007-03-25 01:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well put it this way, most men wouldn't like being given an ultimatum like that 'propose now or I'm leaving' that;s blackmail!
I think you are basing this question on yourself dear.
A proposal should be when it feels right and not any particular time span as such.
I would think that after 4 years you should have an engagement ring looming at least.
19 is very young. Plenty of time to get engaged and married.
2007-03-25 03:04:27 · answer #4 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your age. At 19, I would say the 4-5 year range. However, I think at 19 you should be seeing other people, it's too young to know what type of man you are looking for without dating around. As you get older, late 20's and later, I would say 3 years. I think getting to know someone is important before marriage and I don't think 1 or 2 years is enough time to do this.
2007-03-24 12:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by PhantomRN 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think there is an exact time a couple should be together before they propose.
However if i was in a relationship and felt ready for marriage then its no longer up to the man i would simply just propose myself.....if he said no then i think we would need a long chat as to why he didn't want to get married.
Some people choose not to get married because there parents have been through a bad divorce etc....
So if you want to get married just ask!!!! there is no time limit.
Go for it!!!
2007-03-25 08:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait untill he is ready.
I'm 18 and i've been with my partner for 3 years, we've been living together since August and we're so happy. We desprately want to get married, but we also know that we still have a lot of obstacles yet to get past, like finishing Uni and getting full time jobs afterwards, so we're going to wait untill then. So many things can cause relationship issues, you need to give your realtionship a chance to experience some of these untill you can be sure it can stand the test of time. Think practically about it...i know it's every little girls deam to get married, but i also know that i (personally) only want to get married once, and i want to be 100% sure nothings going to go wrong. Be patient, it'll be worth it (and just think, the longer he waits, the longer he has to save up for a big ring!)
2007-03-26 01:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a certain time limit for getting proposed. For instance, I've been together with my boyfriend for 4 years and I'm still not engaged. I personally don't think there's anything wrong since we're not financially really ready for a wedding, moving in together, and the whole spiel. My quote is if you really love that person and plan on being with him/her for the rest of your life...than what's the rush?
Well I hope everything works out fine; the best of luck to you and your boyfriend.
2007-03-24 11:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. L ♥♫☼ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mistake number 1: putting a time limit on how long to wait on a man!
Mistake number 2: you are 19 and have only been involved for 2 years.
I think you need to focus more on you and what you can do to have your life set up financially for marriage. Marriage means nothing into today's society and if you want your to mean something then take your time. don't rush love or marriage. Let love happen while you're sleeping.
FYI: If it's been 10 years and he hasn't married you then maybe you should repost your question, but as of now love your man!
2007-03-24 11:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I got engaged at 18 but we have waited until we are both 22 before we even thought about a date. My sister has been with her boyfriend for 7 years and they have no plans to get married. It depends on the relationship and the people involved.
2007-03-24 23:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by indyana.saqqara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have u ever stopped to think that ur bf wants to finish college?
it all depends
did he get his college degree or wants to and is in college right now?
is he finacially secure?
u should atleast wait until u both r ready
and have been together for maybe 2 yrs
thats if u both r in ur earlier 30s around that
and just met a few years ago
but for u since u said u r 19 and have been together from 2 yrs ago..... if he doesn't propose by like age 25 then u should move on
cuz college doesn't end for until age 26 or 27 if he is becoming a doctor or something
2007-03-24 11:44:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋