MY FIANCE MADE ANOTHER GIRL PREGNANT and our wedding is in June?

Question

You need to read my question that i posted 3 months(it's in "addition Details")thats the only way you will understand what i ve to say now.

after the advice i got from yahoo answers i demanded that my friend stop posing as his g/friend.My fiance ended the pretending & my so called friend became very angry & ended up telling his boss about me.The boss was angry because he was lied to but he has accepted me very well & i ve gone to 3 business trips with him & i go to all business parties with him.

The problem is my friend that posed as his g/friend says that she was sleeping with him & that he was giving money on the side.THE BIGGEST thing is that she claims, she was once pregnant by my finace & he asked her to abort.My man denies almost everything but only admits to sleeping with her once in London & apologized.We re planning our wedding in June but this girl won't leave us alone.She says she loves him.Last week he kicked her out when he found her in our house.I love him. help me

I'm 26Indian & his 35white.He is a CFO of a big company.We ve been secretly dating cuz one of the executives is racist but is retiring may 2007.He has an opportunity of being 1 of the top 3 executives.He is being trained for the top job.my man says that he will miss this opportunity if his boss finds out about us.There's a guy in his company who hasn't been promoted because his married to a black woman.I understand him wanting to get ahead but this has been going on for a year.I DON'T think his cheating,i ve keys to his house,i spend everynight with him, i ve unlimited access to his funds and keys to all his cars & he proposed this thanksgiving.i ve met his family.I DON'T go to company parties with him.1 of my white friends poses as his girlfriend for company parties and business trips to europe.He says we ll go public when the boss retires.I NOW THINK MY friend who poses as his girl wants my man.She talks about him with excitement.what should i do? and what do you think is going on?

He made her abort..so there will be no child

Answer 1

You need to leave him. If you don't, you have told him that it is ok to cheat with other women. You will have to pay child support to the other woman. Let him go...he's no good! Once a cheater, always a cheater!

Answer 2

Wow...I'm going to be real with you. The things I say may hurt your feelings, but will save your heart in the long run! 1. I don't trust your fiance. He slept with the girl! Well there may have been others. 2. Just because you have keys to his house and all of that doesn't mean he isn's cheating. Actually that is a way to make you feel more secure and make it easier to cheat. 3. I don't think a man should ever put a woman through that. That isn't real love. No job should be that imprtant. 4. i think you should think about yourself in this situation instead of being all about him. What is going to happen with your life. You seem so dependant on this man and he doesn't seem to be all you think he is! This girl that is refusing to leave you two alone...well make sure you have the real story and remember you can always get a restraining order. But dont be so quick to believe everything this guy throws your way.

Answer 3

I Dont think hes tellin u the whole truth theres sumthing hidden there.... think about this..... ur never gonna know what really happened btw them because none of them are gonna tell u the real story theyr always gonna tell u what u wanna hear... so are u willin to spend the rest of ur life doubting him or her? not ever knowing the real truth? or would u like to move on find sumone who wont have any racial problems at work or fake g.fs and treats u right and is faithful to u? to me the second choice sounds less complicated than ur life right now. u have to think b4 u do anything that can change ur life forever. remember that even though u love this guy, u can always move on and ull always find sumthing better. theres always sumthing better waiting at the end of the tunnel for us so maybe u wanna go reach it? or forget about it and be stuck here for the rest of ur life.

its ur decidion... think about it.

Answer 4

When the heck are you going to wake up and get off the course of disaster. Can't you see this person has no sense of value, no integrity is that what you want to spend the rest of your life with? Move on and it wouldn't hurt if you furthered your education and became a little more independent.

Answer 5

what do i think you should do?

1) Get out of the relationship
2) Move on & never be in a relationship where you cant be yourself or be proud of who you are. Don't sacrifice yourself like that
3) Never speak to that girl again..her posing as his gf should have been a red flag to begin with

What do i think happened?
1) I THINK your man took the easy way out. He could have been proud of your ethnicity but rather he hid it from his coworkers for over a year, [lame]. He slept with another woman [unforgivable]. He Lied to you[once a liar, always a liar]. Honey, please move on..for your own sake.
you haavvvvveee to know you can do better!

Answer 6

1- she is not a friend.She is a *****!
2- he admits to 1 time,what is your first thought that comes in our head when he says that?You first instinct about it?
3- If he really loves you then he shouldn't care about what his boss thinks.And if this company he works for isn't promoting people because of their choice of partners "OUTSIDE OF WORK" then they need to be reported to whomever about discrimination.

You are to good to be treated like that.And if this guy really loves you he wouldn't need this supposed white friend to pose as his gf at co. functions.And he would start showing you off NOW not when this begot boss retires.

As far as your wedding goes I think you should seriously consider postponing it for a while.Say about a year at least.You man really needs to prove himself and his love for you to everyone but mostly to you.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Umm, your fiance knocked up another girl. I think that should say it all. Leave now before you get married because chances are his cheating *** wont stop cheating just because you are married. You deserve someone who will respect you and treat you better than to get your friend pregnant. That is absurd, you should find love with someone that wont cheat on you.

Answer 8

Well If I was you , I would get rid of him , cause if he cheated on you once , he'll cheat more, hmmm if you love him, talk to him , like a real good sit down kinda thing.Maybe the girl he was with is jelouse and wants to try to have you break up with him.

Answer 9

oh my...sounds like big problems...wow...i think if you love him give him a chance..the biggest mistake was allowing your so called friend to travel with him...put the wedding on hold for at least a year and see how things go...

good luck..sound like you are dealing with a successful guy and that girl will do anything to have guy. she thinks because she is white that she is more entitled to him than you...get your man

Answer 10

YOU ARE AN IDIOT

if your man tells you that his company is racist and you are a secret for that reason........... he is full of crap!!!!!
racisim is against the law.. and he can not be held back from anything because his wife is indian or black or asian.... he is lying to you to have his cake and eat it too.. IF HE DOESN'T GET THE PROMOTIONS THAT HE WANTS .. THAT IS HIS FAULT NOT YOURS........ he is lying to you and if it is true... he can take his company to court and sue them for discrimination of his wife... he is a BSer...

HOW CAN YOU TAKE THIS LIE AND MAKE IT TRUE??????

dump his @ss and find a man that will respect you more.. CAUSE HE DOESN'T

if he pretends with your friends... if he sleeps with them... if he travels with them.. if he hides you... HE IS A DOG....

and for your friend...
SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND... CAUSE SHE SLEPT WITH YOUR MAN... SHE IS AS CUTTHROAT AS THEY COME... DON'T TRUST HER... KICK HER @SS AND TELL HER TO STAY AWAY