Example: We've been going back and forth for years about whether or not I have some form of mental illness. The problem, however, is that whereas she believes I do, I clearly do not. I believe that my experiences can best be explained through Pre-Birth Communications, angelic visitations, ghosts, UFOs, NDEs, etc. I am sensitive to the spirit world but she believes that I have schizophrenia.
I've been having these non-productive conversations with her for years now, and it really irritates me. We literally go around and around in circles and get nowhere. I just want to live a productive life and be accepted by people. Instead, she contantly harps on me and pretty much jumps on me at the drop of a hat. When she gets argumentative, I unfortunately get so back. It is some of the most unproductive conversations ever.
What can I do to not get sucked into these types of conversations? Because everything eventually comes back to this topic, whether we are talking about work or whatever.
2007-03-24 11:17:45 · 5 answers · asked by dunric 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Oh my God! I thought that this question was written by my sister...she would have asked the same exact - almost word for word-verbage... (and I could easily have written the same question myself - but that was YEARS AGO.
So my answer to her is the same to you: DO NOT ENGAGE IN DISCUSSIONS OF THIS NATURE. When Mom's get 'critical/helpful/suggestive/sarcastic/and other forms of verbal abuse,' the very best defense is NO DEFENSE. I usually say "Mom, don't go there" or "Mom, this discussion is over now." And then I either leave the room or hang up the phone. Try it. It may take several attempts to extinguish this negative dialogue that BOTH OF YOU are addicted to, but after a while, you may be able to have constructive, adult-adult instead of adult/child talks. With warm affection and understanding. Good Luck. agk
2007-03-24 11:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Andigail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not talk to her about "angelic visitations, ghosts, UFOs, NDEs, etc." Don't even mention anything close to it.
Talk to her about other things. Take an interest in what she does and how she is instead of auguring about things over and over again.
2007-03-24 11:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to accept society has control of some topics and you will not be able to speak about the reality or not. You need to accept that you are an outcast and start again with one new friend who is an outsider like yourself. Remember suicide is group murder.
2007-03-24 16:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you and is trying to give you the best advice she can. Be sensitive to the spirit that inhabits her. Opinions are worthless, hugs are priceless.
2007-03-24 11:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by Happy Camper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well an argument has to consist of two people. you need to just refuse to talk about those subjects with her. when she brings its up tell her you arent going to talk about it period.if you have to leave the room. hopefully she will let it go when she sees you are totally going to ignore the subject.
2007-03-24 11:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋