What age do you think is an appropriate age to allow my daughter to go on an occasional date?

Question

My daughter is wanting to date. I'm not sure I should allow her. I feel I need more than just my own opinion on this matter.

Answer 1

It is nice that your daughter is able to tell you she would like to date. I don't know how old she is, but if she is in high school, I'd say you could let her date as long as you always knew where she was going to be when they were out. Explain to her the difference between liking one boy and dating, and going on many different dates with many different boys. There may be consequences with both, but if she is aware of them then hopefully she can make thoughtful decisions...or come to you if she has a problem.

My fear for you is that if you say no, she may try to do it behind your back, which is what you do not want.

If she is younger than high school, maybe she wants to hang out with a boy, but you should possibly be more in charge of what they do and where they go. Perhaps you can drop them off at the mall so they can hang out. At least they are in a public place, and you could arrange when to pick them up.

Answer 2

This is a really good question. It's easy to just say some age that sounds acceptable...but I think there's more to it. I have a stepdaughter who will turn 16 in July, so I'm right there with you on this one. I think at 16 the question comes up for serious consideration, but no earlier than that. And at 16 there are a few factors that need to be considered. How educated is your daughter on sex and pregnancy? It only takes one time to make a permanent decision, that will change her future. How mature is she? How responsible is she? These are all things I would consider seriously! And if at 16 I thought it was okay, it would be "occasionally", preferred in a group, and limited in time. Meeting the boy would also be best and not just at the door on the evening of the date.

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

I had my first serious relationship at 14, it lasted 4years, I didn't really date before that though, it was my first boyfriend, but I told my parents right away and because my mom trusted me enough to allow me to date the communication lines were open through the whole relationship, she knew when "I love you" was said, and what we had decided on the issue of sex, etc... and saying as long as your daughter is mature and responsible age doesn't matter is great, but really, either way, especially if not mature and responsible, she will date when she wants, if she wants to bad enough, so I would allow her to go out, but with curfew etc... and just make sure she knows what you think is ok dating behavoir, physical and emotional at her age, and that she understands she can come to you with any questions and you won't be mad and will just talk, I know many people who had sex so young and prematurely in a relationship to keep a guy around, who never felt they could talk to their mom, so keep communication open and judgement free and it should be fine. And safety, always know where she is etc... i am only 20 so I am just going by I've been there, not long ago, and I think if shes mature enough to discuss it with you, not just do it, than her dating will probably be fine. my parents made sure most of my dates were around the house with my family or his, not too much in town, as the dangers of being in town without adults at night, and the no adult supervision bothered them at first.

Answer 4

I don't think I would want my child going on a date until they are a minimum of 16. If its a group date, like going to the movies with friends, then I think 12 is okay as long as at least one parent was with them. But then again I have a boy and its a little different I guess.

Good luck

Answer 5

I don't think dating is something you can decide using age as a measure. It's should be more along the lines of if she knows the limits of her personal boundaries. And if you feel comfortable enough to let her go. If you aren't maybe she could go out with more than one person in a group date. Just remember you may trust her, but you never know if you can trust the boy or not. Good luck with your decision.

Answer 6

18

Answer 7

I being a mother myself think that fifteen would be ok for her to invite someone over or her go over somones house and sixteen start actually go out on a date. because i was able to date when i was fourteen and from experience I made some bad decisions and got pregnant and there is nothing that a girl that young needs to be doing that she can not do at home until she is a little older and can make smart decisions.

Answer 8

It depends on your daughter. Maturity and trustworthiness should be the factors - not the age.

My daughter is only 9, but mature for her age. If she continues to be trustworhy and mature, I will allow her group dates at 14 and car dates at 16.

Answer 9

What is She in need of to do? If she needs to spend time with the men, then there is not anything the problem with that! They hang around, generally by myself, in all places the situation at college and college movements. If she might love to be round those children, then pass with! Invite the child alongside to a few day trip, a few loved ones film, over for dinner, to the mall with you, something. Two matters: she will get aid with the boy, and also you get to get a well learn at the boy (and he or she's no longer in any awkward "do I kiss him" moments in a gloomy film theater). My rule? As quickly as I'm distinct you'll preserve your self both through wit or force in the event you had been ever in a hinky obstacle, you're equipped to move. If she had been in any respect insecure approximately her possess needs or passive with others, I might without doubt be hanging the brakes on "all-through-themselves courting"

Answer 10

do you trust your daughter? has she in the past given you any reason to believe she is not responsible enough to handle dating. I think 16 is around the right age but be sure to have the sex talk with her if you havent already, and although you may not want her having sex, explain how to have safe sex. set ground rules, like a curfew and if her grades slip then no guys. If you believe in birth control then i would suggest that you consider it. even good girls and guys get pregnant. and remember you need to trust her. if you think abstinence is the way to go then explain your position but please give her the info that will keep her safe if she chooses to have sex. if you do not have the talk with her, her friends will if they havent already.