he left me wednesday after i foundt out i wasnt pregnant and all he said was it wont work out ne more and that when i thought i was pregnant it scared him but we went out yesterday and he said "that we might get back together he just needs to be alone for now he said he still loves me and always will" and i feel the same way about him what should i do???
2007-03-24 11:12:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Give him time - JUST A FEW DAYS TO RELAX, AND THEN CALL HIM
2007-03-24 11:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Were you engaged before you thought you were pregnant?
If you were only planning on getting married because you were pregnant and now aren't, I would suggest you walk away now before you find yourself in a loveless relationship somewhere in the future.
If you were engaged and then found out you were pregnant (and have since either lost the baby or found out you weren't pregnant at all), give your man some space. He may be dealing with the "loss" in his own way.
In the end, the decision is only yours to make. Just make sure you make the decision that's best for you and not what anyone else thinks you should do. Hope this helps.......
2007-03-24 12:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by soccerref 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It strikes me that this is probably for the better. His commitment to marry you was probably partly based on your (false) pregnancy. When he found out you weren't pregnant, his commitment suddenly went back to its true level - which wasn't strong enough to follow through. The two of you shouldn't get married unless both of you are fully committed, and I don't think he is. He's having second thoughts, and that's no basis for a strong union. Give him some time, then ask him to talk to you about it. See if the above is what is going on, and if it is, ask him what he wants to do about it. You may well find it's going to be wiser to call off the engagement and look for someone else. That would be unfortunate in a way, but maybe fortunate in another way.
2007-03-24 11:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to insist on being mature enough to have sex before you are married to anyone use birth control every time, no slip ups no excuses.
I don't know how old you are, or how old he is but you both sound too immature and uneducated to be even dating, let alone thinking about getting married.
Unless you both mature in your thinking while he "needs to be alone" you need to end this relationship.
You cannot behave in a mature manner, you cannot have a child and you
should not be married.
I don't mean to sound cruel but come on you sound like a whiny child who is not getting her own way.
Did you think that being pregnant would make him stay with you? That rarely works, and resentment would soon follow.
2007-03-24 11:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a few days. The whole I might be pregnant to I am not pregnant situation probably has him a little worked up. He probably needs some time to sort things out and figure out what he really wants.
It sounds to me that you are both way too immature to be making such a huge decision (marriage) in your life right now. It would probably be better for both of you to put off the whole marriage idea for now and really sort things out in your life and see if this is really what you want to do.
2007-03-24 11:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by msi_cord 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A few days apart will tell him how he r-e-a-l-l-y feels about you.
He was scared and now he has been relieved of the responsibility that he didn't want. He may just need to get his head together, but I fear that this might be the end of this relationship.
PS. We know what causes pregnancy now. Be more selective & careful.
2007-03-24 11:26:47 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell me how do you have sex find out the girl is not pregnant it scared the hell out of you now you don't want to marry her. Sister if I was you I would drop him like a hot potato. Tell him to grow the hell up. Question? Ask yourself, what would he had done if you were pregnant. He probably wasn't going to marry you. It goes back to the old saying "What you except is what you will get".
2007-03-24 11:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by mitteycole 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry. Tell him that if he really loved you, he wouldn't be taking time away from you. If you truly were the love of his life, he would be spending every waking moment with you. He should be helping you with your pregnancy right now.
I hope everything works out between you too. Best of luck with everything!
2007-03-24 11:28:00 · answer #8 · answered by XxChocolateChipxX 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Don't tollerate disrespect unless you want more disrespect. Tell him you aren't waiting around for him, and then never take anymore of his calls. Your job is to teach him a life lesson, it seems.
2007-03-24 11:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready to commit to you, that is for sure. You need to move on. If something happens down the road, after he has removed his cranium from his rectum, then fine.
2007-03-24 11:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him some time...i guess you people were in a rush to get married when you thought you were pregnant...give him time to think and relax about his life
2007-03-24 11:26:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋