i have been with my b/f for just over a three years and i love him but i just dont feel that spark that i used to. i meet a guy about a wk ago and just so smitten so fast, i dont know why coz im usually not like that. he seems to elevate my way of thinking and i get butterflies when we speak at night. i haven't spent any time with him we just talk on the phone. he's seems to really like me. as for my b/f things have been spiraling out of control for a while and i know i want out but i just don't wanna break him. WOT DO I DO?
2007-03-24 10:56:36 · 6 answers · asked by gloria o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to your boyfriend first. Explain to him that you're concerned about the direction the relationship is heading and ask him for his input on the situation. If he agrees with you but wants to try and fix the relationship, then stick with him. You've been with this guy for three years, so I'd do all that I could to keep the relationship going. However, if he doesn't realize/care that your relationship is in the dumps and you're not happy with him anymore, then it's time to move on to this new guy.
2007-03-24 11:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by Pepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't continue with one of the relationships. Drop one of them and do it quickly as someone is going to end up getting hurt. This guy that you talk to at night might not be as exciting to you if you werent already involved in an other relationship. the fact that you are 'sneaking around' could be much of the reason why you get butterflies and all turned on by this other dude. You sound unhappy in your REAL relationship. Is it worth saving? if not, break it off...but don't drag this other guy into it. Wait until you're a free agent before you get involved with another man. Our world is falling apart because of this kind of crap. Don't get me wrong, I've done this same thing too so I am not meaning to sound 'Holier than Thou'...it's just that we need to try to heal our frigging world and the way we treat eachother in it because it's drowning under all this painful crap. People hurt eachother, lie to eachother, steal from eachother, kill eachother and forget about eachother...it's so sad and scary to see what we've become as a human race. Each individual person needs to do their part in trying to make it as right as they can. Do the right thing!
2007-03-24 18:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by blakta2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be honest with him ,the longer you put it off the more you will hurt him. Are you sure you don't love him anymore 3 years is a long time, you could just be bored, try going out together somewhere nice, jolt yourselves out of repetitive patterns, meet new friends and join a club together.See if things improve ,love often settles into a serious pattern that can be uninteresting.
2007-03-24 18:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself. Dump the bf, and go get that lovely one just waiting for you! You know what? That is what dating is about..you love some..you lose some!
2007-03-24 17:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with b/f and try something new. Good luck!
2007-03-24 17:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Twister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is time to break up with your bf and date this new guy b4 he finds some1 else
2007-03-24 17:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋