I am the Maid of Honor in my sisters wedding. I understand that it is my duty to purchase my dress. She wants to take a two day trip and rent 2 rooms and rent a van and stay at a nice hotel to look for a dress for me and 3 other bridal party members. Is it her job to pay for the trip, or do we all have to chip in?
2007-03-24 10:56:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If she arranges it, she should pay for it or otherwise ASK if you all would be interested in spending the money for a trip like that.
2007-03-24 11:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by ♥monamarie♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not your responsibility at all. If it was her idea, it is her responsibility to pay for the the trip. Your only responsiblity is to be her support and maybe pay for the dress. I've heard of Maid of honor's paying for the dress but Never for a trip. That is way beyond the call of duty and should be the brides job to do that. And yes that is her job. Not everybody's maid of honor can afford that. You do not have to chip in, especially if you cannot afford it and if its not your idea.
2007-03-24 19:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As the maid of honor, you must buy your dress, chip in for a group gift for the bride, host and chip in for a bachelorette party, host and chip in for a bridal shower and buy a shower present. You also must pay for your trip if the wedding is out of town unless the bride offers to pay, BUT you do not need to pay to go to another city to look for the perfect, putrid, bubblegum pink dress that you will never wear again!
The bride should pay for that little excursion.
2007-03-24 19:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by sq 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If she can't let you look for a dress in a local store, or shop for it online or in a magazine and have it delivered or some other reasonable way, then she should pay for the trip and the hotel rooms. It's her wedding not yours. SHE should pay for the extras that SHE wants to make HER wedding unique, not you.
2007-03-24 19:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say "I can't afford a trip like that" and see what she says. She might be thinking of it as her last trip with the girls and not be considering the cost or how other's might feel about it.
If you tell her you can't spend the money on it and she wants to pay for you, great. Otherwise you can go the David's Bridal or shop online for the bridesmaid's dresses. Ebay has some awesome deals from professionals.
Peace!
2007-03-24 18:35:13 · answer #5 · answered by carole 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The Maid of Honor is to support the bride during the engagement period (not financially, emotionally)...have the wedding shower, help with wedding arrangements, keep the bride calm on the wedding day, etc...she has no financial obligation except to buy her own dress and shoes. The bride's father is responsible to pay for the wedding and if he cannot afford it the 2 families parents and the bride and groom pitch in. Generally the groom's parents pay for the rehersal dinner, but if they cannot, it is up to the bride and groom themselves.
2007-03-24 18:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by AytymnRain 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
She's the one that wants to take the trip to find the dress, so she should be the one to pay for it. You just pay for the dress.
2007-03-24 20:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, your sister sounds out of control about the wedding dresses. I hope she isn't that way about everything! If you can afford to go along, fine. If going isn't practical for you, send your measurements and have the final alternations done locally.
2007-03-24 21:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the wedding. I've been in bridal parties where the bride paid for all the dresses, where everyone bought their own, and one rather memorable one where the bride just told everyone to show up in whatever they wanted to. But I would at least offer to pay for your portion of the trip.
2007-03-24 18:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋
This is completely her responsibility. The bride should never make it a financial hardship to participate in her wedding.
2007-03-24 18:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋