Jealous of my wife at a dance club?

Question

Me and my wife went to a dance club with her best friend. Her best friend got totally wasted and was grinding all over my wife all night long, She even pulled me and the wife out on the dance floor and at times other guys were dancing with my wife. My wife wont talk about it, and im feeling really jealous about this whole situation. She wasnt grinding or anything, but the idea of her dancing with other guys, and guys staring at her "stuff" made me feel really uncomfortable. Not sure what to do here :*(

Answer 1

Well, for me.....fun is one thing and crossing the line is another and I don't care what doctor phil or oprah say...there is a line.
Since you are married, your wife has no business dancing with another man. If she wants to dance, she should dance with you.
What you have to watch out for is her being defensive about dancing with guys or her girlfriend...and thats a whole other issue.
One defensive gesture by her is acceptable..but if she continues to justify her actions then you have a problem.
In todays society people are afraid to take a stand for what is right and safe...be willing to defend your marriage.
I was reading an article just a few days ago....someone asked..how do I know when my wife is cheating....the reply was...you know it long before you admit it to yourself. So I'll ask you....what does your gut say???? if yes...then watch her and who she hangs with. If your guts say no..then forget about it and enjoy your life with your wife.
Now as far as other guys looking at your wifes "stuff"..if its on display, it's going to get looked at....period.
P.S. I saw above where several people say" she went home with you didn't she?"...what does that mean....if she's a whor* all day long, it's ok, because she comes home at night????what kind of logic or rationalization is THAT?

Answer 2

Her best friend sounds like she has NO respect for your marriage. I don't care if she is another woman, it's sick and disgusting for her to treat your wife that way right in front of you. Also it should have made you feel uncomfortable, your wife was in a situation that was out of line, for any other men to be looking at her lustfully. I'm not saying she asked for that attention, but that is what the whole dance scene is, one big meat-market for on the prowl, loose, available people. What happened is over with, so no point dredging it up. But I would definitely not allow your wife to go "clubbing" with this particular best friend again. Look what happened while you were there, imagine what would go on if you weren't there.

Answer 3

It would probably be best for the relationship to let it go. It doesn't sound like your wife was actively seeking other guys to dance with, it just sounds like her friend was getting wild, and your wife let loose a little bit. Take it as a compliment that other guys are attracted to your wife and know that at the end of the night she's going home with you. You're the winner everytime and you know it at the begining of the game. Trust me she will only resent you if you can't let this go. Trust her!

Answer 4

Hunny, I have been married for 19 years and I really hope you don't read anything into this, there is nothing to do, but if anything you should be turned ON that there are so many people that want what you have, she went home with YOU, just think about that, You went to the club with her its not like she went out dancing without you, you should be proud that your lady lives you so much, she did nothing wrong maybe you and she should go out dancing without the friend I am sure great things will come of it, hold on to what you have don't make trouble when there is none, GOOD LUCK...

Answer 5

What happens when your not around? Do you think guys look? Gotta let some things slide. Looking is one thing ,touching and weird behavior is another. In a way you should feel good about it. It`s confirmation that you have a hot item. Now as far as clubs go, stay away. Clubs are for single people.

Answer 6

C'mon Steven, no need 4 jealousy. U said urself she wasn't doing anything so what's the problem? She did go home with u, didn't she? I can understand being uncomfortable, but don't b jealous. My advice 2 u: do nothing. B glad u have a hot wife that still can go out and have fun with (or without) you.

Answer 7

Well, she must be a beautiful woman. Just always make sure that you are her dance partner. If you are uncomfortable about her dancing with others. it's ok to dance in groups, and fast dancing shouldn't be a problem. Remember that your wife is a big girl, and she is capable of speaking up and making decisions. Just trust her. and communicate that's a huge one. I don't mean raising your voices at each other or putting each other down or name calling, but good conversation with respect. and this should ease your mind.

Answer 8

Tell your wife that, you love her, and that in future, she should show more respect for you, when she goes out clubbing. But you have to open the lines of communicating up with your wife.

Answer 9

I'm married myself and know where you are coming from. Jealousy is not good in the first place though as long as it's not takin' too far it is okay. Let your wife know that you would like to talk about if you are really uncomfortable and maybe she will respect how you feel. Communication is the key which I'm sure you already know. =)

Answer 10

If your wife loves you, and you love her, don't worry about it. Marriage doesn't make you non-existent to other people so if your wife's at all hot, guys are gonna look. Be proud of her, and love the fact that you're the one going home with her. Have a great marriage!