I really, really liked this guy. We got along GREAT. Like perfectly. And it wasn't fake. Well then we had a school break, and we lost touch, I went to Paris and he stayed in town.
I'm guessing he met a new girl because I went on MSN when I got back and he said "He can't say anything bad because he has a GF." I was like whatever.
Then something happened, bad. With my friends. I told him I couldn't talk or see him anymore, and he was like "Please, no, please I'll do anything..You're a great friend I love you." He always used to say he loved me.. AS A FRIEND.
I signed off MSN because I couldn't take it, I was so tired of having my heart broken. Well I signed online and now I have an offline message from him. He sent it that night that I told him I couldn't talk to him, but like 3-4 hours later.
It says.. "I love you alot..." I'm crying so hard. It's like he keeps breaking my heart over and over without really doing anything.
Do you think he means as a friend? More on details
2007-03-24 10:38:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why didn't he just say he loved me alot on the message?
Why 3-4 hours later?
2007-03-24 10:39:25 · update #1
I think he does like you an awful lot, and thoughts of actually loosing made him think. It took him a few hours to make the message, but he made it never the less. I would not put all my eggs in one basket. Keep him for a friend. Sometimes if you come on too strong, it will turn him off. Force him to put up..or shut up. Put a time limit on it as well. After all, you don't want to be his second fiddle do you..
2007-03-24 10:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said he only ever said he loved you as a friend, then it seems there was never an understanding of commitment. It sounds like you wanted more than he did at least at the time. It is possible since he is saying he would do anything to preserve the friendship that he might realize he has some genuine feelings for you because he doesn't want to lose contact. My suggestion is to ask him what he means by what he says and see what he says. Good luck.
2007-03-24 17:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a signing off to signifying the guy losing you and just couldn't take it. He then messenged you after all that time cause he couldn't hold it back any longer. He probably means he loves you passionately as more than a friend but didn't want to tell you because hes afraid to. You have to ask him out and take him somewhere where you can be alone and talk to him about it. That will help immensly.
2007-03-27 23:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by Trevor B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy obviously cares for you alot, but as a friend... he sent it 3-4 hours later because he was busy doing other things... and if I'm right then he's not someone you would want to be dating anyways...darling, I'm sorry you are hurt and I'm sorry you are crying, love is tough sometimes, just think about it this way: in ten years will you still be heartbroken over some stupid guy that just LOVE YOU ALOT but as a friend?? I think you deserve someone who loves you alot with all his heart.
2007-03-24 17:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Jakie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably cause he's a guy and they can very rarely can they ever come out and say how they truly feel. If you don't want to get hurt anymore then stay away from him. You and I both know that's proabably not going to happen so you either need to accept that he's just going to keep hurting you and take it or you can move on and try to find a guy that isn't going to play head games (I know easier said than done).
2007-03-24 17:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by Celleira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really give you an answer. But, I know how you feel. I went through the same thing.
First, you need to talk to him face to face. Tell him that he keeps hurting you and why.
Second, if he doesn't seem to care, move on.
Third, if he does, give it time. Maybe he's confused and scared about this because he's never felt this way.
Fourth, just be there for him. Tell him you available to talk to 24/7. If he can come to you and talk about his feelings, ooh girl, he cares a lot- I mean a lot- about you.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 17:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my guess would be that he was with his new girlfriend for those few hours secondly, it sounds like he is trying to keep you around for seconds. Drop the loser and end your tears. He's just not that into you You sound like a nice person. Im sure you can find someone who appreciates you right now--not later.
2007-03-24 18:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by Patrice C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to cry....he likes you ( personally ) more than a friend. He cares about you and you are really lucky to have a guy that cares for you. Tell him that you love him too and see what happens!!! He will be suprised and will ask you out!! I garuntee!! Good luck!!
2007-03-24 17:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by go clemson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesn't know what he wants or wants to keep you on the "back burner". My advice to you is to try to distance yourself a bit and stop letting him send you mixed messages.
If you want to keep the friendship, you guys need to have a long talk about feelings and boundaries. Chin up girl :)
2007-03-24 17:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by legallybrunette510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you allow someone to keep breaking your heart over and over. This is not a stable person.
2007-03-24 17:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋