what should do????
2007-03-24 10:24:31 · 6 answers · asked by coconuts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
kick your friends to the curb. obviously they do not really care about your feelings. they would understand that you are pre-occupied thinking about that and how to get over it and back to normal if they really were your friends. no friend should ask you to just get over a death that easily and if they say you are just depressing and get mad at you then they dont deserve you and your open time. i would confront them and tell them that either they get over themselves or they are out... i am so sorry for your loss. good luck.
2007-03-24 10:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by beauty♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm sorry for your loss.
If they know that your bf died and they're telling you you're depressing they aren't really friends or people you should have around you right now. You need people who will sympathize and support you right now and these people are obviously not going to.
Now heaven forbid these people are your parents. If they are I would sit them down and explain to them that you are going through a hard time and some support from you're 'loving' parents would be appreciated. If they can't give you this support ask to see a therapist or a support group.
I don't know where you live but two things you can do are
1. Call the telephone operator and get numbers for your local Mental Health association or a suicide prevention center. You don't need to be suicidal to call them they do have lists of grief support groups in your area.
2. Call your local hospitals or hospices. Ask to speak with the Bereavement Coord, Social Worker, or Chaplain's office. They have groups they can give you a referral, some also offer groups to the general public.
The main thing is you find someone who you can talk too. You need to be able to talk about what you feel right now.
2007-03-24 17:42:21 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless it has been longer than you two were together in the first place then it's probably mean of them. On the other hand, if that's all you can talk about then they have a point. You have a life to live and you need to see outside of this single event, no matter how much it hurts, it isn't the only thing that defines you as a person. Talking to a therapist may help you vent without it being on your friends.
2007-03-24 17:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Eden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be depressed too if I were you. I think what would be best is if you went on with your life because that's what your bf would want you to do. And if you go on with your life you would be proving your friends wrong too. Good luck!
2007-03-24 17:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by shortie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This makes me mad! Get some new friends that will care about you. Looks like the ones you have are jerks to you.
I am very sorry for your loss Hun. Big hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-24 17:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friends to f*** off. you need new friends if they wont see you through a bad time.
sorry for your loss girl
2007-03-24 17:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by speed demon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋