we love each other and think our relationship is perfect...my mom and her father dnt mind us being together but dnt like the way we go about it by like sneaking moments to b with each other
2007-03-24 10:14:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
we're in love and we've been going out for a yr and 5mnths so far and im 18 and she's 17
2007-03-24 10:25:45 · update #1
Who is paying your bills? Where do you live? Who buys your clothes? Who supplies your food? Have you graduated? Do you intend to further your education? If you are independent, take help from no one, have a full-time job that gives you enough money for all your needs, then WAY TO GO!! However, if your parent(s) have to support you in any way, you need to take it REAL slow. As for your girlfriend..has she graduated? Does she intend to further her education? Does she have a job? A good job? Does she pay for all her own needs? If so, GOOD FOR HER. However, if her parent(s) have to supply any of her needs, she needs to take it REAL slow too. If you have a great relationship with her, it will last. I'm concerned that the two of you are not only awfully young, you're also acting immaturely by SNEAKING time to be together. I guess you do need to slow down, don't you?
2007-03-24 10:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is you are both young. There is nothing wrong with spending time together but it seems like you may be smothering each other. Then its not good. You should have your friends time , so should she. The problems with young relationships they feel they have to be with each other all the time. Its not good, one or both become dependent. The other issue what about school? That is the most important thing. It makes the difference between a live of poverty and a life of comfort. Take a piece of paper and ask yourself where to you see yourself in say ten years. If you cannot write down a single thing then I would say you are not fulfilling your lifes expectation and just obsessing with each other. All relationships start perfect but can end poorly when there is poverty, or a pregnancy, or smother each other out so that you dont have away time. Get your goals together. Spend time with friends and enjoy maybe some sport. Then see her every few days. Anything more is smothering. So think about it all.
2007-03-24 11:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Sneak.
That Just Makes Both Of Your Parents Think Something Is Going On......That They Won't Like.
So You Guys Are Kinda Acting Like Best Friends.
And Alot Of People That Are B.F.F. Hang Out All The Time.
Hope I Helped.
2007-03-24 10:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by iklam 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Going slow doesn't mean stop altogether. It just means don't rush things trying to get to the next stage of the relationship. I think it's excellent advice that more people ought to take no matter their age. Savor the times you're having now and look forward with anticipation to the ones you'll have tomorrow.
2007-03-24 11:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way i see it no ( Right thinking parents ) want to see their children get hurt ! If there is a legitimate reason to slow down, listen to your parents. The sneaking around to be together, do get on the Psyche of some parents.
2007-03-24 11:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are right, this is a time in your life, you and your girlfriend should be having fun, exploring life, these are years that you can't take back.
2007-03-24 10:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say how old you are or how long you have been going out
2007-03-24 10:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by kittycat 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋