I'm so depress, he never keeps his promises , and I'm afraid of asking him , of stuff I want to do , we always do what he wants to do , and I do everything for him, when he ask me to do things, and he's really hirts me, he saids I have no rights of feeling this way , cause he treats me good, but he only does it , once in a while, we been going out for two years, and plan to get married , and have kids, in a few years, but It's been two years, and I dont know his big family, he said I will meet them on sep 1, but sometims I dont beilve him, when I try to break up with him, he saids I belong to him, help what should I do, I love him, but I dont love the way he treats me. He promised to take me to the park, so we can play with his new puppy, but he's always late, and doesn't call me,help please
2007-03-24 10:06:18 · 12 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He tells me what to wear, or what kind of book I can or cant read.
2007-03-24 10:08:40 · update #1
He's hurting me
2007-03-24 10:09:50 · update #2
We are both 19
2007-03-24 10:19:10 · update #3
All, he does is make me want to cry all the time
2007-03-24 10:29:55 · update #4
From a guys perspective, I'll be the first to admit that as men, we like to be catered to and can be selfish at times. However, it sounds like you are not in a relationship with a "somewhat selfish" guy, but with a very controlling and disrespecting man that will only get worse if he has you in a marriage that you feel you can't get out of. You "belong to him"?? That is nuts...WAY nuts...run the F away now! Don't listen to a damn word from him and go....live your life and find someone that respects you and is willing to share life with you not be served by you only. Ridiculous! Go now!
Report any abuse to the authorities, get a restraining order and GO AWAY!
2007-03-24 10:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cronides 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay Shorty Baby, this guy is a selfish control freak, and BELIEVE me, things will only get worse! You said you love him, but you don't like the way he treats you.... well the way he treats you is a form of how he cares for you. And if this guy was serious, honey you would have met his family a long time ago. I had a boyfriend like yours when I was 19. We were engaged. He was a control freak(among other things) and it only got worse! One morning, on my way out the door to go to work--He grabbed me, an started scrubbing the makeup off of my face with a scalding hot wash cloth! He said that there was no one there that I needed to impress and makeup is for whores. I was a model at the time, and used very little makeup, it made me feel more self confident! I finally got out of the relationship, but only after he beat me so bad(jealous of my modeling career) my mom and dad hid me away until I was strong enough to resist him....
This kind of stuff is NOT love, it is sick and wrong. Bail from this guy quick, and live the life you deserve to have--be your own woman. Don't let some guy rule/ruin life!
2007-03-24 17:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by bossfemale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, i have been in a similar relationship.. and i am not in it anymore and much happier! you need to get out. whether you see it or not he is almost mentally abusing you. I had a b.f who told me what underwear i was allowed to wear and i wasnt allowed to wear skirts or white pants.. thats pathetic. You should never lower your standards for anyone no matter how much you love them. You need to feel loved and cared for and appreciated. Get out and stick to your decision! stand your ground you must. Everyone in the world can give you all the advice but only you can change the situation your in and only you can decide whether you want out or not. If you think its going to get better its not.. it will only get worse. Quit letting him walk all over you. You deserve the best and its sounds like your just together because your used to eachother, but they're are so many men out there and im sure you could find one who will treat you better and fulfill your needs. You especially dont need a boy who will tell you what books to read, you are giving him exactly what he wants CONTROL. You need to take control now and do whats best for you and he doesnt like it. Yea they're may be good times, but if there are more bad than good than that answers it.
Good luck, Its not the end of the world. You will be ok and you will survive and move on.
2007-03-24 17:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by craziglueforever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to start out by saying you should definetly get rid of him. Me personally, I see this relationship going to more 'physical' actions. I know a girl, which is my best friend, that used to be in a relationship just like this. I tried to talk to her when she was telling me what was going on-- I told her the same exact thing I just told you, get out of it now before it turns into an abusive relationship. She said she loved him, but the real reason she wasn't leaving him was because she was too scared. Soon after, he began to get physical. They would get into arguements and she would try to leave-- Oh no you dont is what he was thinking, therefore he would start to hit her, clearly down to the point of kicking her across the house and so forth. One day she called me while I was on my way to pick up a guy friend of mine. She was crying histerically and told me to come to her house ASAP, and then hung up. I had no clue what was going on, so of course I went and got him and rushed to her house immediatley. When I got there she was beaten, her face was a mess, and she had three broke ribs when we took her to the hospital. Thankfully, I got her away from him, and she pressed charges against her boyfriend- He served a year in jail, and had to go through Angermanagement Classes. The best thing for you to do now is get out of this relationship NOW. He think's you belong to him, but you belong to NOBODY but yourself, and the people whom made you. If you have any problems with him after ending the relationship, contact the law and have a restraining order put on him. If he violates that order, he will be put in jail. I hope this helped- Good luck.
2007-03-24 17:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him as fast as you can. You sound like you are losing yourself. You are your own person and you dont belong to anybody. You need to get out from under his grip. these are the classic signs of an abuser. He might start beating you up. Break up with him and then stay with your family or friends as much as you can for a while to make sure he doesnt come near you. Call him on the phone if need to break up with him. Just do it soon because it sounds like it is going to turn out getting worse and worse.
2007-03-24 17:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by one_thing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! He obviously doesn't respect you. If you get married and have children, it'll be a lot harder to get out. Do you want to be miserable the rest of your life?!?! YOU DON'T 'BELONG' TO ANYONE! I'm sure your friends and family will help you get rid of him if you need help. He's not treating you good. You can make it without him, and you don't deserve to be disrespected like that! You can do better!
2007-03-24 17:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by peanut g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve better than him. He is a controlling self centered jerk. There are way nicer guys out there who want a partner in life, not a slave. Try dating older guys, you don't mention your age but older guys are usually nicer to younger girls and they treat them better without the drama that younger guys seem to like. Good luck, nice guys are out there just don't get saddled with a jerk the rest of your life. They aren't worth the time.
2007-03-24 17:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jim V 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you could do so much better but isn't able to see because you think you love him... and want to give him another chance but how many chances has he gotten?? one too many?? two too many?? when will you decide its too much to take in he thinks he owns you as in that you are his property and sumtimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't.... i say you move on....and let him go just WALK AWAY
2007-03-24 17:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by iiSABEL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you NEED to get OUT of this relationship ASAP! This is unhealthy, and his behavior is NOT normal! Put as much distance between you and him as you possibly can...tell someone, you need to get out before it turns into something you cant fix!
2007-03-24 17:11:52 · answer #9 · answered by B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is a dead beat control freak. if you live with him start saving money and put up with his crap for a little while until you can get a place of your own.
2007-03-24 17:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Riddles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋