Sexualtiy worries?

Question

Ive recently looked at my best friend in a different way.When she has a boyfriend im jealous,i dont know weather its because her boyfriends hot or i actually like her and wish we could be together.Im a 15 year old girl and i dont know what to do,i mean i look at boys still and think 'hes gorgeous' but they have to be stunning for me to like them.When with girls i pick out all of their qualities and im always looking at how beautiful they are.Am i gay or what?I just dont know.I hope someone could give me advice.
Thankyou. :]

Answer 1

I relate to what you are saying. I went through exactly the same thing. When I was a teenager I hung around with loads of girls, and you study the way they look, and see their different styles, and how pretty they are.
Then there was the boys, who in most part look nothing like the men on the posters in your room! Also boys are that bit harder to talk to.

What I figured was that I didn't actually want to kiss my friends that were girls (although I did once in a game of dares!) or do anything sexual with them. But I did like the way they looked, probably because I was looking at them for inspiration for my own identity. Which I did, its what we all do. For example it might be something small, like your mate has a new mascara that makes her eyes look really nice. So you then go and get that mascara. We all rub off on each other. You shouldn't do this too much though, you need to find your own style too so people can copy you.

I think you are probably not a lesbian, I could well be wrong though. I just think you just have a healthy interest in others beauty, and there is nothing wrong with that!

Answer 2

I don't think youre gay at all. Youre young and confused trying to define who you are and your personality. It's very common to feel jealous when a girl friend has a bf that we think it's hot. I think it's maybe that you wish it was you instead of her the one with the hot boyfriend. We girls, sometimes, tend to compare us to other girls that we think are prettier or smarter or are more popular. It's natural to admire beauty whether is in a boy or a girl. That DOES NOT make you gay! (not that it would be wrong, if you were) I just dont think that, by what you said, means youre gay.

Answer 3

sometimes i feel the same way as you but i KNOW that i am NOT gay because i really like an amazing guy. i guess you could be BI or just confused because at one point i was too and honestly there is nothing to be ashamed about. you can be just curious or comparing yourself to other girls by looking at them the way that you do. the reson why i was doing it was because i was lonely and didnt think that i can find anyone but then i did and realized that i was just lonely and looking for interaction between other people because i was confused. i dont now if i helped but i hope that i did. and if you are just curious in a while you will learn that you are straight like i am.

Answer 4

First of all I had the same problem.Personally I took some soul searching with prayer.You should do the same.Only then you will have the answer or otherwise you will do things and regret them when rushing for a quick answer.No one on the internet including me nor family nor friends can tell you you who you are.Give yourself some space from the dating world and that is including time away from your bf.Tell her her that your are her friend but right now you need to find your way in life.That way you are giving yourself time to reflect on what is right for you.

Answer 5

You are at an age when your hormones are flying all over the place - it doesn't mean you are gay and it doesn't mean you are not - only you will know what your sexuality will be. It is perfectly natural to have these feelings for the same sex so don't worry about it. You will know what feels natural as you get older - get yourself a boyfriend and see if it feels natural to be with him

Answer 6

HEY THERE DOLL!
well i was in the same position as you are at your age! i looked at girls different from all my friends but i didnt want to say as i thought people would hate me! i even went as far as to go mental if some mentioned lesbians, bi-sexuals! BUT turns out it was a cover up!

im BI-SEXUAL! i relaised when my sexual thoughts would drift over to women as well as men! it took one of my bfs that knew me very well for me to admit it! i knew from about your age and i did not admit it till i was 18! now everyone knows and i feel so comfortable! to be honest

no-one will be able to tell you if you are gay, bi or straight youll just know! maybe if its possible talk to your best friend about it! i wouldnt advice to tell her you MAY have a crush for her unless shes seams comfortable with you! (i know its weird but friends will react with a OMG reaction lol)

but i think give it time your mind will bloom and you will realise who you are on the inside!

good luck and i hope you work it out :) mwah xxx

Answer 7

well i feel the same way and some time i think i am bi which means you might like boys and girls it is ok but have you ever like really really liked a girl and do you have any crushes on boys or girls get to me on this and will help you more

Answer 8

hey. don't worry. just go with the flow. if you still like guys you might just have high standards, and with the girls, you might just see their good qualities because you are a warm hearted friend. you might very well just be a bit jealous/fancy your friend's boy yourself - or you might be bi sexual, or even a lesbian. but it doesn't matter - you can't be anything but yourself, so don't worry about it. just go with the flow. good luck.

Answer 9

It's a phase. Females always seem to compliment one another in the unorthodox aspect. You will realize a man is what you want and that there is nothing wrong with looking at another female.

Answer 10

no youre not gay or lesbian, youre just exploring your sexuality, after all youre still learning about life. Youre taking notice of other peoples qualities. you are just a normal healthy young lady.