I've been hanging out with my friend's best friend for a few months and when she broke it off with her long distance relationship (someone that wouldn't call her his girlfriend and literally lives 1000 miles away) we started dating. When her "ex" got wind of us spending break break together he calls her up and says "I love you and I can change" and makes all the promises she ever wanted to hear. That's all it took.
I've spent just as much time with her as all their months of "dating" and I fell hard for every little detail and imperfection she had. To be perfect for her I just had to be myself, and now she's gone.
Now I've seen my sister go through the same thing before, relationship hits a snag someone says "I love you" and misery begins. My sister married into this and I'm scared she might do whatever it takes to justify his failings because she isn't there to know if he's telling the truth.
Did i just fall to hard to fast for my own good, or should I fight for her?
2007-03-24 09:45:19 · 14 answers · asked by Jeb360 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are the only one that knows for sure if this fight its worth being fought, a good general knows how to fight, an awesome one knows when to. do you believe you want this girl for sure? or is it for your bruised ego?
2007-03-24 09:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lancelot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She easily probable misses you yet no longer the relationship, if it is sensible. many times, after a breakup that's form of a era of "withdrawal" the place one guy or woman will pass over being with the different because grew to become into what they have been used to and he or she enjoyed you. So i might wager something that she misses you in her life yet no longer the "tied down relationship". wish each little thing works out! Btw, what you're able to do next is purely refer to her. tell her which you do no longer comprehend and you do no longer % to handle it if she is going to attempt and lead you on. wish this helped!
2016-10-20 08:44:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeb, Jeb, Jeb,... I fear for you, that you are one of these few caring and loving individuals that seems to be attracted to the 'needy' females. You want to help and 'be there' for everybody. I bet this extends to your guy friends and everybody else too. You should NEVER fight for a relationship. However, if you don't think she knows how you really feel about her, then you should do that. Then let the rope grow long. Hang on loosely, but don't just pretend to her that she meant nothing.
2007-03-24 09:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her triflin' *** go back to her ex and move on with your life. She's either too immature to know what she wants, or too dumb to recognize a good thing when she sees it. And trust me, someone like that is not worth the hassle. She'll eventually wake up and come running back to you, but what's gonna happen the next time an old flame calls her up? You need somebody who knows that you're the one.
2007-03-24 10:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by richard b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok he ex says "i love you".....hmmm I would say its possible she could find you a substitue (maybe I'm nt trying to be evil but it's a possiblity) and maybe she really still loves her ex...and when the breakup reason is like long distance not the i dislike you reasons ... its much easier to get back together....
Before you fight for her, do you really love her ask yourself that...I would say fight for her (but bear in mind its hard) and when you've gt her back build a stronger relationship than her old one....
Good Luck
2007-03-24 09:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short and simple:
It's only worth fighting for if the other side is willing to fight for you as well. If all it took was an "i love you" then it's most likely not worth the trouble.
2007-03-24 10:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by omithechickengoddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U didnt "fall", that no good SOB STOLE ur woman, obvisly he's jealous of u, and by the way if she broke up with u 4 that loser she's not worth it, she's a HOE so win her back, then break up with her 4 wut that $lut did 2 u, and when she comes back crying 2 u, just tell her shes a no good $lut, eventually, she'll learn after she gets dumped by EVERYBODY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-24 09:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by cuti3pop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say..but time to move on. I know your heart and soul were for this girl..but for her to fall right back into mr.long distance man himself after he tells her everything she's wanted to hear....not much you can do but move forward with your life , learn from your mistakes. Trust me, in a short period of time, she'll be begging to go back out with you , realizing what she had but threw away to go back with the likes of her ex., by then it will be too late as you'll have moved on with your life.
She hasn't seen the 'light' yet...as shes fallen head over heels for this jerk* She'll see it eventually..but like I said..It'll be too late* She had her chance..and chose him instead..so she'll have to live with that decision. YOU deserve better and will find someone who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them~ GoodLuck*
2007-03-24 09:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously never got over him. you were her transition guy. but instead of transitioning, she doubked back to her old man. if she doesnt want to be with you, you have to deal with it and mive on. same thing with your sister. move on. you are probably to good fro her anyway.
2007-03-24 09:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by jo_bro_hoe_9890 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her and you know wat make her happy, than do that. if she is more happy with some idiot that lives 1000 miles away when forget her, cuz she is no good for you. im 100% sure that you can find someone better than her.
2007-03-24 09:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋