today i found out my bestfriend is mad at me. she says im choosing the guy im dating over her. which i never tried to do. she says that she wants me to think about it. dont just choose her because she`s my bestfriend but yeah. bestfriend of 2 years? or the guy im dating for like 2 months ? what do i do? .. if you choose your BFF over the the guy your dating does it mean it`s over and done with? or it`s just like i cant hang out with him as much thing. like i need to find time for my bestfriend before the guy? 'cause if he doesnt understand that im choosing my bestfriend over him .. it should be over right? `cause i know he`ll choose his boys over me. i dont want to cause any more problems between us cause my bestfriend will be moving this summer to another ..state. it`s always GIRLS BEFORE GUYS. and oh yeah if your dating a guy doesnt mean you have to see him every single day right? i just need to limit my time and such. does anyone have any advice..?please help. i already apologized.
2007-03-24 09:42:47 · 21 answers · asked by irreplaceable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump the guy to make your friend happy
2007-03-24 09:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she date
2007-03-24 09:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mehru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say "choose" what do you mean by that? If your friend is being too possessive of you then you might want to reconsider whether or not this is a "healthy" friendship to begin with. Sometimes when we have girlfriends and suddenly one of us gets a boyfriend, the other one feels left out and jealous. This is perfectly normal, however, it is not normal or healthy for the one friend to ask you to only spend time with her or even to "choose," as if to say "you can't have a loving relationship with a man AND have a friendship with me." That's in sane! And believe me, the minute she gets a new boyfriend, you will be the one who gets forgotten.
Now, on the other had, if it is your boyfriend who is saying you have to be with him every day and every minute, LOOK OUT...that is the mark of an abusive relationship, and you don't want to go down that road.Just make sure you are doing what feels healthy and fun to you and be open and honest about your feelings to both your friend and your boyfriend...no one should ask you to give too much of yourself.
2007-03-24 09:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by 4Leaf Clover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let ur bff break up u and ur bf. If u don't REALLY like him, then u might consider dumping him 2 make things less complicated w/ ur bff. However, if u really like this guy, u need 2 tell ur bff how u feel. Tell her that she'll always b the most important 2 u, and if she needs u u'll always b there, but u can't spend every sec. of ur life w/ her. She's probably jealous. Talk it out w/ ur bff first and find out what she has against ur bf.
2007-03-24 09:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by angelfire22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way you're talking, you and your best friend spent a LOT of time together. Now that someone else is around, she's a little jealous.
Sit down and think. How often do you see your friends? How often do you see your best friend? "Bros before hos" really only applies if there is an ultimatum involved.
I think you need to spend more time with your friend because she's leaving, but she doesn't get to be mad at you forever unless you're really neglecting your friendship.
2007-03-24 09:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... you sound so much like me.
Your BFF is most likely not gonna be your BFF in a few years, especially after you graduate. The guy? He may be a 2 month thing, or maybe more.... is he worth holding on to?
I think the real answer is your best friend feels like she's being replaced and feels scared. Just spend more time with her and assure her that you ain't goin no-where.....
Peace
2007-03-24 09:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Appolnia_76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, let me tell you this but i think your friend just got to get use to it.. if you keep ditching your boyfriend for your bestfriend or if you're gonna ditch your bestfriend for your boyfriend does not solve the problem. try to plan things where both of them can enjoy, and if your friend doesn't want to be the third wheel tell her to invite one more person. introduce her to some guys that she might like, i mean you can't keep ditching your boyfriends for your bestfriend. she's got to get use to that when you guys get older you guys will have more than just bestfriends in your life that you'll be having other relationships with others.
2007-03-24 09:51:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your friends first, that doesn't mean you have to dump him. Explain to your friend that you really like him but explain to your boyfriend that she is your best friend and she comes first. You don't need to be with your man 24-7. You will just end up getting sick of him. Spend time with your friend, ask her to have a girls night or something and dont talk to your man at all while your with her. Its just one night, I'm sure you both will live with out eachother for one night.
2007-03-24 09:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by ROCKER_CHICK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...it's your bestfriend and most likely if you have a good relationship with her, she's gonna be your bestfriend forever. Guys at young ages are easily replaceable, but not a bestfriend. My advice is: make time for both. Double date...
2007-03-24 09:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by destined_luv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell your friend that shes very important to you.
also if the boy would choose his friends over you.whats the point in going out with him if it might not go further. 2 years seems way more important in this case
the guy seems like a loser
and i wouldnt disagree with your friend because she might feel a little left out.
and no you shouldnt have to see him everyday. because you need space
i wish i could help more
anyways good luck
2007-03-24 09:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by ~ME~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should be your friends before guys. but i dont think she should be trying to make you choose between her or him. She shouldnt be asking you to dump him for her. Just make time for both. She sounds like she is jealous. Whenever girls get new boyfriends, less time is gonna be spent with your friends, but you just need to try and find a balance for everything.
2007-03-24 10:31:25 · answer #11 · answered by one_thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋