I finally have everything I've ever wanted. I'm only 22 and now im done college and have an excellent job, apartment alone, friends, family and an amazing boyfriend.
My relationship is so good and he treats me so great. I think this is my first true love, and really good relationship... now that we have a great thing, its hard for me to just sit back and enjoy it because i feel like the second i do that, i will lose control of everything and things will go bad with us. i find it almost easier to be unhappy because then u know things can only get better... but now that things are great, i have a hard time being happy because i know how much it will hurt if i lose it all.... what can i do?
2007-03-24 09:41:54 · 6 answers · asked by queen k 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy and take each day one at a time. Now that things are going your way, sign up to volunteer at a hospital or local community school. Sometimes when you see what others don't have, you feel more blessed for what you've got. And giving some thing back by being productive for others is always a way to happiness.
2007-03-24 09:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a few years older than you but often feel the same way. I know what you mean when you say at least when things are bad they can get better, but when they are good you stand to lose a lot. There are no guarantees regardless if you do everything just right......so you may as well enjoy it when things are going good because without a doubt something will go wrong be it major or minor, but it too will pass. Enjoy the good times and when something comes up deal with it then and get right back to enjoying the good times. Trust me I know it's easier said than done.
2007-03-24 17:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by laughalot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on being in a great place in your life! Some people never experience this. RELAX! Allow yourself to BE HAPPY! ENJOY!
Life has no guarantees. EVERYONE has disappointments, and there are no promises that you won't someday be hurt or disappointed too. We ALL LEARN from these. Sometimes, they're supposed to happen! Accept it.
*But while you have it all, don't worry about losing what you haven't lost or you can't experience the happiness you have either!
Realize that you are "worthy" of love and happiness. Trust in those who love you.
Learn to relax... Get out & take a ride along the countryside (not the city) while listening to whatever music relaxes you. (I'm a poet, & I love listening to John Denver poetically sing of the beauty of our surroundings... as I'm seeing it for myself... and his background music is so uplifting!) ...It's hard to feel worry or stress as you feel the warmth of the sunshine on your shoulders or see a huge bed of bright wildflowers line the roadway, Or a colorfully, breathtaking sunset (or sunrise), sunrays flowing over a mountain, the stillness of the morning, or a walk in a warm rain. Really NOTICE these things and "breathe" them in.
Pray for patience. Thank God for giving you the gifts He has given you! And give yourself permission to enjoy them! Blessings.
2007-03-24 17:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please think about the choices:
Be unhappy because of a fear of suffering disappointment.
Be happy most of the time, deal with disappointment some of the time.
Really, this is a no-brainer. The idea that you are in control is an illusion anyway. What if you had an accident and could not pursue your career? What if someone you loved died?
When you think about it, you are actually letting FEAR control your life unless you decide to be happy with what you've got.
2007-03-24 17:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel; I never seem to be satisfied no matter how good things get. The only thing that I can think of is that you may be depressed, and that some professional help (therapy and/or medication) could help you. Personally, it never really helped me, but it's worth a try if you haven't tried it already. You might try seeing your doctor (general practitioner) and talking to them about it. They will eliminate any possibly physical problems, and if they determine that it is a psychological problem, they will be able to refer you to a mental health professional.
It might also help to try to stay positive. I asked a somewhat similar question ("I hate myself and it's affecting my relationships..."), and many people suggested things to help me improve my self-esteem, such as repeating affirming things to myself and leaving notes for myself. I haven't tried them yet, but I thought I'd pass them on to see if they might help you. I don't know if you are unhappy because of low self-esteem or not, but I suspect that it may be part of the problem.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 16:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by JaniesTiredShoes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the Jesus Christ into your life. He will give you joy in abundance. You can rely on him for everything and every situation. He will always be there for you no matter what and love you no matter what you do. He died on the cross to save you from this lost and dying world that you and I live in.
2007-03-24 16:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by onlyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋