i became freinds with this girl and we became really close, and then i fell in love with her and thought she liked me to, so i asked her out. she sed she just wanted to be freinds. however ive tried being freinds but its just not the same as it was before i asked her out , its akward and she doesnt call me anymore or try and arrange to do things. she says she cares about and values my freindship but doesnt show it . im always the one who calls her and makes the effort with her, she doesnt even sit next to me anymore. We have good conversations on the phone but in person we speak very little. she always hugs my freinds and holds their hands but doesnt do that with me. im still madly in love with her and i just dont no what to do about it all??? help.
2007-03-24 09:32:03 · 22 answers · asked by james m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let it be x Just think to yourself if she wants to be mates doesn't mean she hates you, she just doesn't want to loose you so if you were a couple you probably will be arguing and all sorts then you will have no relationship whats so ever! You probably have better conversations on the phone because in person she cant bare to look at you because she feels really bad about being friends.
2007-03-24 10:52:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this guy freind , and we have been best mates for 3 years and i love him , but im gettin over it now , he has liked me in the past and told me but i wasnt ready then and we still go throught these periods which just messes me up , i go round his house all the time , he rings and when i stay there i stay in his bed but i dont feel anythin now, and i have a new guy and hes got a new girl do the same move on get a new girl x x
2007-03-25 04:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by yuckaplant00 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if I were in your shoes, I would stop thinking about being madly in love with her and think about differences between a friendship and between a romantic relationship. I start by asking myself what makes a friendship, a friendship; and what makes a relationship, a relationship. I would also ask myself if things would really work out if you and this girl became girlfriend and boyfriends or work better as ordinary friends. You need ask yourself whether if she would treat you right as a boyfriend too. In my opinon boyfriends and guyfriends have rights and they deserve to be treated like an equal and not some errand boy.
From that point, I'd look over at the things you've just told me now. You say that "she cares about and values my friendship but doesn't show it." but don't you think that is strange? What kind of friend doesn't show that they care or value their friendship beyond words? Shouldn't a friend treat you with the same respect and genuineness in your friendship with them? It doesn't seem like she's treating you like a real friend should. I think that in a friendship, both should be willing to initate things with each other. I'm sure you ask your buds to an event and they ask you too.
You also say that "she always hugs my freinds and holds their hands but doesnt do that with me." Have you considered that perhaps she may be considering her options she has for a boyfriend? She might not like you but perhaps your friends. I think that she is a bit too open to others. From what you said she seems to flirt or do things that are usually considered to be in a relationship with "just friends".
I'm guessing that you still want to be her friend, so perhaps think things over and then discuss with her how you want your friendship to be like. Tell her you you feel like she's been treating you like dirt and that you deserve to be treated like a friend.
If and still in the end you still want to be more than friends, then ask her out again and tell her what you really think about your friendship about her. And if she shuts you down, respect that and don't try being her friend until you are ready to be her friend. She will cause you much more grief than usual, if you try to be her friend when you don't want to be her friend but her boyfriend.
2007-03-24 10:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by whiteaspiration 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, im really sorry to hear that cuz the same thing happened to me. i was really close with this guy and everything so i asked him ou and now its akward and all that...just giver her some time. it took a few days but me and the guy are doing pretty good as friends right now. its hard being just friends with someone you love, but isnt it better having her as a friend that not having her in your life at all? eventually the akwardness will wear off, and things will get better...
2007-03-24 09:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by Kendall :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is not into you and you have to deal with it. you cannat make a person like you. maybe you could get to know her better and become more close. pretend like asking her out never happened. tell her how you feel (about being friends) otherwise tell her you dont want to be her friend and crush from a afar. that way it wont hurt you as much when you see her. but if i were you, i would talk to her. ask her if she wants to hang out the 2 of you as friends. go 2 a movie. but dont make a move. act like you would as if you were with one of your guy frinds (well...not completely...lol) or move on and find a girl who really is into you. especially if she is flirting with your friends right infront of you. maybe she is not the girl for you. she sonds stuck up and cant see what a great guy you are (or sound like) who is standing right infront of her. it is her loss and you shopuld beat yourself up for her mistake. hope this helps!!!
abby
2007-03-24 09:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by jo_bro_hoe_9890 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 08:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i am a girl and i had the same problem with a guy.
I think she kind of avoids you because she knows you still have some feelings for her and that is what scares her so if you can change your feelings for her and accept that you can have her only as a friend if you can not then it might be better if you give up. i am sorry.
2007-03-24 09:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by venus_farahani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs time, stay away from her for a little while. and if she doesn't pay any attention to you after a while when you leave her alone then talk to her about it. but make sure you just give her some space. it just means that she thinks you don't see her as a friend any more and it makes her uncomfortable but later on she will be back to normal.
2007-03-24 09:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sucks!! i just went trhu the same thing. You sould talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and you not being as close friends as you were. It will take some time to get back in track ,but you two will be friends again.
good luck :]
2007-03-24 09:37:43 · answer #9 · answered by Victor Martinez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tuff break man but if she just wants 2b friends thats all u gonna be...
well just try 2 act like none of this happened at all im srry but i dont think u2 will ever be 2gether
2007-03-24 09:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky Charmz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋