How long were you with your other half before you got married?

Question

Just wondering how long people wait to get married.
Also, what do people think is the acceptable time to wait before getting married?
Also did any of you get married very quickly after meeting them?
Thankyou.

Answer 1

We met at the beginning of the school year (college) started dating a month later, got engaged 4 months after our first date, and got married 4 months after we got engaged. I think that's kind of quick by most standards, we had known each other about 10 months when got married. And we celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary in Maui.

Answer 2

We will have been together for over 3 years before getting married. We want to finish college and get a good job before moving towards a big step like marriage.

I think it is an acceptable time to get married after you are done with college and are financially stable. If people aren't that young, they should wait atleast a year or 2 to get married.... to know who that person really is, to feel totally comfortable around them, to know all their flaws and still love them, to know how strong your relationship can actually be and see if it is strong enough for marriage.....

We are young.... but we are not that naive. Waiting atleast a couple years is the more mature thing to do.

Answer 3

I married my first husband with 18 months of meeting. We are now divorced. I am engaged to my current partner, but we are together ten years, and not in any hurry to tie the knot. I have an uncle who was 23 years with his girlfriend before he popped the question; she was 45 when they got married! That's too long!
It depends. There were very short courtships during the war; people expected it. these days, it's about what the couple want. About two to three years is about right; but we are friends with a couple who have six children; the oldest of whom is 30, and they only got married last year.
There's no right or wrong about it.

Answer 4

My first marriage, we had dated for about 2 months, broke up for 3, and after being back together a week, he proposed, and three months later we were married. We were married 19 years when we divorced. My second marriage, we moved in together after 6 months, we got engaged a year and a half after we met, and were married 3 years to the day we had met. Been married a year and 2 months! :)

Answer 5

Together four and a half years when he asked me, we will have been together for six (just over) when we get married.

I think it varies from person to person. My fiance and I knew we had found "the one" after six months, but still had fun and enjoyed every bit of that "getting to know you" phase as boyfriend and girlfriend. Also, we were (are) young. Why rush into anything?

Is it wrong to meet, get engaged, and marry within a year? No. Not something I would want to do, but it could be the right thing for those people.

Answer 6

Started dating March 2003.

Moved in together July 2004.

Proposed to me August 2006.

Getting married June 2008.

Answer 7

My husband and I knew each other for one month and 13 days when he proposed. Two weeks later, when I said yes to his second proposal (the story has already been told), we wanted to get married right away, but didn't. We were married after knowing each other for 8 months, give or take a day or two.

The acceptable time to marry is when you have been with each other long enough to know each other well.

People, on the other hand, most likely think that knowing each other for several years is best.

I may not have known my husband for a long period of time, but we were at work together (sometimes for two shifts), together on our days off, at his home, at my home, at his mom's home...I got to know him fairly well.

We had a kind of get-to-know-you crash course.

I don't know if you consider 8 months 'very quickly', but it definitely wasn't 2, 4, or 6+ years.

Are you thinking of marrying someone you just met?

Answer 8

We were together 10 months before we married. We have now been married for 18 years and am still happy.

Answer 9

i met my husband when i was 18 and got married when i was 24 I'm now 29 , so quite long for me but we did live in different country's to each other ( Liverpool and Ireland ) i moved over to Ireland.
my eldest sister though she is 38 now ,has been with her now husband since thay were both 13 , that only got married last September over 20 yrs later thay never wanted to marry as thay have 4 kids ageing from 12 to 20 so thought there was no need ,but thay did in the end .

Answer 10

My husband and I met in fall of 2002, began dating in spring of 2003, got engaged in fall of 2005 and were married in June of 2006.

I have often commented that it's a bit scary that we have known each other for only 4 years and have vowed to love each other for the rest of our lives.

I think the time period depends on the couple and the relationship. If you know each other very well (not just "favorites" like food, song, etc. but habits and philosophies) and are willing to commit to a marriage for better or for worse, then you'll know when you're ready to get married.