Okay, well...i was dumped Thursday the 22nd by my girlfriend, or now ex. She said the reason being we moved too fast into the relationship. We talked a week and a half after she got out of a 2 year relationship and then after that week and a half, i asked her out. She said yes. It's been 3 months. All of the time I would tell her how happy i was being with her and she would say the same thing how happy she was. Another reason she said is she lost interest in me a few weeks ago. It wasnt even two weeks ago she said she was so glad she's with me. Now I'm confused. I dont know if I should continue on or try getting back with her. She said she's sorry and doesnt feel the same way. But is there a way to change that also??? If you can, help me perhaps.
2007-03-24 09:26:05 · 13 answers · asked by matt meek 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She just gotten out of a relationship and even though it might have been a while her heart haven't completely healed from her past relationship.She maybe happy with you but sometimes you need a lot of space after a break up.Try to be there for her as a friend and eventually when things are right-everything will fall into place.Her heart wasn't ready for relationship and she will come around.Give her time and she will like you even more for giving her that.
2007-03-24 09:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by jany50002002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but it sounds like you were the typical rebound. She did move too fast. I don't think it's very possible for a relationships just a week and a half after a two year relationship to work out well. I'm sorry. I'm sure she meant what she said and really liked you, but she's not fully over the last guy yet. She needs time to truly move on. You should move on too. Find a girl who doens't have baggage to keep her from sticking around.
2007-03-24 09:34:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, I feel for ya dude. But check it out. Chicks don't think with their brains when it comes to matters of the heart. They think with their feelings and emotions. While all us dudes want is the best path to the solution of the problem. When something is wrong we want to make fix ti, make it right. Unfortunately, that doesn't work for chicks. What does this mean to you? Well, it means she was probably unhappy and losing interest long before you caught on. Her decision was based on feelings and emotions. And your feelings tell you to fix what is wrong, make it right and go back to the way things used to be. Happy, at least for you. Hang in there, but don't sell yourself out. She may not come back. If she does it will only be after she "feels" like things were better with you after all. I know this answer sucks. That's exactly what I thought the first time someone explained it to me. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Two separate worlds. Good luck dude, wish you all the best.
2007-03-24 11:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by sumrblizzard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To give you the best advice, I would say she had moved on, and so should you. It sounds like she may have found interest in a new guy and didn't relize what she said when she said she was happy with you. You might be a great guy and everything, but she may just want to explore her options and you should too. You will find someone else and they will be better than her. Good luck with all and don't give up!
2007-03-24 09:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex girlfriend got into another relationship to quickly and will still be getting over the last one, give her time and space and carry on with your life, if she has any feelings for you, she will make the first move to rekindle what she had with you! If not, put it down to experience! Most women don't like to be rushed into things, and the more eager a guy is, the more she will pull away!
2007-03-24 09:53:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs some breathing space - she obviously liked you which is why she said yes but now realises she moved too quickly after her last relationship - give her time and space and see how things go in a few months
2007-03-24 09:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey honey! i hope your ok! i know it hurts alot right now! but i think this is so confused and youve just been taken along for a ride! i think she probs did like you alot but shes right it was to fast she probs took all of her feelings from her long term relationship and put them on to your new realtionship but shes probs relaised that your not her old bofriend and that you are different! i dont think its really good for you to spend time trying to get this girl back! if you leave her for some time i bet shell come running back but if you nag or beg her youll find youll push her away more. its not your fault shes no longer with you just leave it! xxxx
2007-03-24 09:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by SWANNY AND SNUGGLES! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think you should let it be. You can't do anything to someone who doesnt want you.(unless its an arranged marriage and u have to stay married but this is a whole different story) anyways, i think tht she just doesnt like you as someone who she woul be able to spend the rest of her life with.
2007-03-24 09:30:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if that ship has sailed, you are now young, free and single go out and enjoy yourself and put it down as a bad experience.
2007-03-24 09:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't want you that is there loss. It is true that you can't make somone love you. She is being honestwith you and not playing games. Feelings change, be thankful that see is not leading you on.
2007-03-24 09:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋