Whenever we have visitor's I hide myself away because I don't want them to see how uguly and fat I am. HELP?

Question

This is a serious question and is not meant to be under jokes and riddles, my mistake.

Answer 1

Stop being silly. Who says you are fat and ugly. What is your perception of fat. Some view being half an ounce heavier than the skin and bone yokes they call super models as being fat. What is your perception of ugly. Perhaps you feel you're not as beautiful as a skin and bone yoke. You are beautiful. All human beings are beautiful in their own right. You don't have to be a sheep and follow the "trend". Ignore those who would criticise you and STOP PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN. No one can be beautiful without confidence.

Answer 2

As to weight, that IS something you can fix, by a very slow approach, and not fad diets, and walking. Eat smaller portions, not really small, just slightly less, and eat off of a smaller plate. It has been proven that people who eat off of smaller dishes eat less. Eat slower, as it takes 20 minutes for the signal from your stomach to trigger your brain into knowing that you are full.
Secondly, start walking, 20 minutes a day, once a day for the first week, then twice a day thereafter. After the second week of walking twice a day, increase the time to 30 minutes, and add 10 minutes more every week. Do not be hurried in your walking, but rather enjoy the walk. It increases the cardiovascular system, and is low impact, and so should be safe.
As to being ugly, I seriously doubt that you are. I have to ask this, and hope you dont take it the wrong way. Were you abused, or sexually assaulted when younger? Many who have been assaulted in such a manner wind up feeling worthless, ugly, unwanted, and experience extreme weight gain in an effort to make themselves undesirable to others as a form of protection.
They also have a tendancy to become reclusive, and hide from society, fearing another attack. I have undergone the same thing, except in my case I became extremely skinny, almost to the point of looking anorexic. I hid from the outside world, becoming reclusive. I felt worthless, and had low self esteem, thinking myself unwanted, unlovable, and ugly.
Truth of the matter is, I became the one imprisoned, not the perpetrator. I locked myself into a self made prison, building up walls to protect myself. My walls became the prison I had to break free from, while the other person walked free.
I hope this helps. It was as hard for me to talk about as what you are going through.

Answer 3

When I first saw this I laughed but since it is under jokes and riddles I dont feel bad. Is this a serious question or concern? If it is you should not have to hide when you have visitors.

Answer 4

You need to find out as much as you can about healthy eating, talk to your doctor read books. Get active but slowly. Join a self help group and gain some confidence. Get out and about when you can, (the world is not just for thin people). Loosing weight should be a fairly slow process, you can't put your life on hold while you do it. Don't overdo it, have fun, find things to do that don't involve eating, and keep moving as much as you are able. Your real friends will like you anyway, but you should do this for your health. Good luck.

Answer 5

Being fat or thin is not as important as how you take care of yourself. I have a large female friend who wears nice clothes that fit her figure the way it is, plus she uses her make up well and she looks great!! Wide or thin is no different than tall or short when you take care of the appearance - clothes, etc...
Most department stores will offer you a personal shopper for free just to have you buy their clothes. You can also get free make up tips from the cosmetic departments too.
Sell yourself as great and people will follow your lead. Act as if you expect to be rejected and they will follow as well.
I know it can be hard, but try group counseling to help you with self image. You just need some encouragement.
Good luck

Answer 6

Why should anyone have to feel as though they are bieng judged?......You are a great guy for having enough courage to ask this question,alot of people would let it go.....I don't believe that you are fat and ugly......I believe you are a wonderful individual and you have social anxiety issues...I have the same problem....I get aorund people and I can't think of anything to say to them so I hide out to....anything to make myself scarce.....my fiancee' hates it but I have always been around just my close family.....and if you are a little heavier and feel unattractive this will only make it worse....I have started to overcome this....only because I got a job at a hotel.....I was scared....but I have gained alot from it...like communication skills.....and personal satisfaction that i overcame it....try to get out and find somewhere to get into like a job of your personal liking and let people take the time to find out who you are.....good luck to you hun.....you will soon see that it won't control your life

Answer 7

Have you tried councelling.
I'm really not trying to be rude here.

You shouldn't feel that way about yourself. perhaps your insecurities stem from a larger problem besides what you eat or what size you are. Besides I doubt that you're ugly.
You said 'we', right. do you have a partner?
If so they don't think that of you.

If your still at home, talk to your family. They love you and will want to help.

If none of the above suits then speak with your doctor. They will understand, trust me on this.
You have the same right as everyone else to be happy.
Go for it honey! x

Answer 8

Don't be so vain, people come to visit because they want to see and be seen with you. They know your good points because they are your friends, if you cheat yourself from friendship because of your paranoia, maybe you should just join a gym so you can feel good about your body and not ashamed. It's all superficial BS anyway. Don't stop being you over something so trivial.

Answer 9

Fat and ugly is how you see you...most of us accept people how ever they look and beauty is in the eye of the beholder...stop hiding away and enjoy life..it takes all kinds in this life and no doubt if you weren't there somebody would loose out

Answer 10

You need to give your confidence and self esteem a boost. I seriously doubt you are ugly and fat it is just you don't feel good about yourself. You need to like yourself before you can expect anyone else to like you. Write down all your good qualities I am sure you will have a few