what should i do ,im 19 yrs old. and feel that im old enough to make my own choices by now. she said she wont be there for me if i need her for anything. but just a couple months ago she was threating to kick me out. im tired of the bickering we do. i cant cry anymore. i have to be strong and follow my mind. but since she doesn't want this ,do you think that GOD will make it so that this blows up in my face? i want to do this so bad,im in college,and i live on campus but i cant trust my roommates either. so should'nt i just get my own place? i have a job. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-24 09:18:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would say get your own place. There comes a time in ones life where you just have to say this is MY life and I am ready for the step out of the nest. Sometimes parents think their children shouldnt leave the nest as they are not ready. I think the restlessness shows you you are. So step out and fly!
2007-03-24 09:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19 going to college and you have a job also, that shows you are a responsible adult. Just make sure you do the math, to see if you can really afford to move out.
If you do have the financial means then............. Take your mom out to lunch or dinner, and when you are both relaxed, the atmosphere is congenial. Bring up the issue.
Tell your mother nicely but firmly that you love her very much. You want to make her happy, but she has to take your feelings into consideration too. Show her how you worked it all out financially, and that you have the means to live on your own. She will see that you are a responsible, sensible person, and not just doing things haphazardly.
Then just do it. She will still be your mom, even though she threatened that she won't be there for you. Don't worry she will.
If it starts to become into an argument just say in a firm , calm, sincere voice, mom I have to get my own apartment. Do not allow it to become an argument. When you do move out call her every day, even if she complains tell her your sorry, but you love her very much. After a while she will get used to the idea.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 09:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously suggest making sure you have at least the one full time job, and that it is a secure thing. Also, I suggest getting some money saved up. I would say a few thousand in case you need it to fall back on. Never consider moving out if you have NO money saved at all. Trust me it is major stress for you if you are unable to pay your bills.
Also be aware that you would be responsible to be paying your own bills. To pay them on time or utility companies will tack on extra fees. It is soo incredibly annoying. As well remember, rent is ALWAYS ALWAYS first. In other words, if you only have a set amount to pay a bill/s, use it for the rent FIRST. If you do not pay rent yet your utilities are caught up, you may get kicked out and what is the point of your utilites being all paid up but no where to live? It is better to owe an extra ten bucks on a bill then to get kicked out.
Finally, when you do finally get the oppurtunity to move out, always remember just in case, your landlord may tell you or someone else may tell you that they can NOT kick you out unless you don't pay rent for three months, do not pay attention to that. Get it in your mind set that if you do not pay rent, they may boot you out.
I apoligize if any of this sounds harsh, I do not know you personally but I would hate to think that there is someone out there (that I had given my advice to, to the best of my ability) just got booted out because they didn't have all thier ducks in a row before moving out. :)
Good luck and I hope that I helped out at least a little bit.
Have a great day
Kristy
2007-03-24 09:30:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if i were you i would get my own place. if you cant depend on your mom or trust your roomates what else can happen? it sounds as if you need your freedom. and just think once your done with college your not gonna be able to live on campus, you'll have your own place already.
2007-03-24 09:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well being on your own is not always so easy save your money and get a job that is secure then after u have good transportation then think about moving out
2007-03-24 09:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by Mississippi's Jersey girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay in college and work it out with your roomates get an apartment when you have a degree and a job
2007-03-24 10:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have a job, get out of there... do it smartly tho... find out on average what the monthly bills will be before you go
2007-03-24 09:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you can afford it then do it. You are an adult now.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 09:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋