Take things away from them and make them say sorry.
2007-03-24 09:15:48 · 6 answers · asked by Nae Nae 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No. Making a child say 'sorry' is essentially encouraging them to lie. A child does not develop empathy or understandings of others feelings until later. I teach a class of preschool children and one of my rules is 'be friendly'. This is a concept that they understand more than 'respect'. Children make mistakes growing up. Some need help learning certain things. All kids need to learn appropriate behavior. They need to be taught it. Punishing them is much less effective than teaching them what you expect. Teach a child what 'being friendly' means and how they can say 'no' to someone but in a friendly way. I teach my kids to say "can I use it when you're done?" when they want a toy from another child. The other child says something like, "yes...when I'm done." The point is they need to be taught what is appropriate and not simply punished after they make a mistake. If a child makes a mistake spelling, we teach them how to spell, we don't punish. If they make a mistake in math, we teach them. The same should hold true for appropriate behavior. I might say to a child "is there anything you can think of doing to make him/her feel better?" and let the child decide if they feel sorry or not. Forcing them to say something that means nothing to them is an exercise in lying. Understand that children will learn how to feel for others, but they are not born with it and it takes time to develop. Teach them to care about others feelings and they will begin to. Ask them things like "I wonder how you would feel if Susie took your toy?" when they are not upset or in the moment of having a problem with another child. Roll play situations with figures and talk about what 'friendly' choices would be. Good luck.
2007-03-24 10:52:51 · answer #1 · answered by prekinpdx 7 · 46⤊ 2⤋
I believe the best way to teach kids to be respectful is by showing them. If you are respectful to other they will learn. Remember kids look up to their parents and imitate their parents.
2007-03-24 09:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by slickrick 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Kids will mimick what they see...so, you must do the same. By saying thankyou, excuse me, I'm sorry when you do something than they will follow your actions. And, when they do fight over toys (very normal) than you are there to guide them on the proper way to handle the situation.
2007-03-24 09:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 8⤊ 0⤋
you have to be consistant. Dont just work on manors once in awhile. Its a 24 /7 thing. If you ground them... stick to it, and dont let them see you behaving poorly. They learn from what they see.
Its not hard to say please, thank you, im sorry. Manors are not that hard.
2007-03-24 09:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by tammer 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You start by disciplining them, being consistent with discipline and love, and by setting a good example. If a child sees his parents being hateful and disrespectful to everyone then that's what THEY are going to do (children LEARN what they LIVE). Even if you do all of these good things and they still go astray as adults, at least YOU know that you taught them right from wrong.
2007-03-24 09:35:33 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Mommy of 6 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
respect them firstand tell them to do the same.
2007-03-24 09:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by chet r 1 · 5⤊ 3⤋